14 year old refuses to attend school

Kati - posted on 09/17/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My daughter has had issues with school since 6th grade...my husband and i have asked her about bullying and such and that is not the problem...she hates school...period...she thinks it's not important...she was in counseling when she was 10 and was diagnosed with ODD...she no longer goes to counseling because once it started becoming "work" she refused to go...now she is 14 and has been diagnosed with depression and social anxiety...she is on medication but we haven't achieved the right dose yet...or possibly not even the correct meds....in 7th grade she missed so much school she was very close to getting me fined...or jailed...in 8th grade we tried online school...she refused to do the work...now she is in 9th grade and we have put her in a charter school...it should be the perfect place for her because some of the other kids have issues too and don't do well in a "normal" school environment..but here we are...her first full week of school and she has already missed 2 days...i have explained to her that she can get me fined or put in jail or she may get taken away but she just does not care...she is very selfish and i am at my wits end...i have been told that i am the mother and i need to MAKE her go to school but it's not that easy...short of physically dragging her out of bed there is nothing that works...we took away her phone, and the internet which are the only things she cares about and it does no good! She needs counseling again which the school will pay for but they see the students at the school and if she does not go cannot get counseling. Any suggestions? Do i get CPS involved myself? Would the police help with something like this? Should i contact a juvenile detention center? I don't know what to do anymore.

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Gardensparrow - posted on 09/18/2015

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Wow, that's a hard situation to be in. And it sounds like you've tried to explore a lot of options for your daughter. Of course, if she's not willing to try to them, I know you're in a tough position. But if you do feel like you can't force her to go to school, then you may need to get some outside assistance-police/truancy officers, etc. It does seem like it would be important for you to let her know you won't tolerate this any longer-whatever that may mean as far as consequences. One last thing, if it would help, this article (http://bit.ly/1iV9TNp) talks a bit about a similar situation and options that might be available to you. So, just FYI if you want to read through it.

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