15 y/o son wants to move out

Nikki - posted on 08/24/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 15 year old has pushed his way into his dead beat dads life over the summer and now refuses to come home. Dad who has never been in his life now claimes to want him to live with him and newest girlfriend. Wants to change schools in his tenth grade year. Help! I'm lost and don't know what to do.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/25/2015

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If DNA proves out, all you can do is request a custody order. However, I must point out that the child is 15, and may be old enough to choose residence, so even if you could get an order, if the kid's old enough to choose...

I also must point out that not going to church isn't going to be a deal breaker here, nor is 'doomsday prepping'. That seems to be tne new fad.

Dove - posted on 08/25/2015

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Does he have any legal proof that he is the father? Since he is not on the birth certificate was a DNA test done? If he does not have documentation proving he is the father it is possible that the police will get involved... but it's also possible that will escalate things to a point you don't want them.

Call a lawyer today and see what you can do. Generally at 15 a judge will let the child choose where to live as long as the child is not in danger in that home... but not always.

Michelle - posted on 08/25/2015

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Like we said, go to court and get custody sorted out if you haven't already.

Nikki - posted on 08/25/2015

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When I said he pushed is way in it is not putting blame on him. His father has never wanted to be apart of his life in any way. My son made contact with him, and continued to beg and plead for him to spend time with him. And because of the fathers new girl friend was able to start seeing him. He doesn't want my child there, he is only doing this to spite me. My son has been rejected by him so many times in the past that now any attention he gets he is clinging to. He has changed everything to fit in with this man and is willing to do what ever he suggest in order to be accepted by him. He could care less about my child and what is best for him, hence the total lack of boundaries and allowing him to run wild. Along with the fact he has convinced my son the government is going to take over on September 23rd and they are building survival huts in the woods! He has planned out one plotted how to make certain people, including the new girlfriend and her daughter, and others who would only "be in the way", disappear on that date. He has convinced my son not to go to church and to spend his time planning on how to "defend" their territory when the mock revelation takes place. It's a very twisted situation that bothers me. And regarding custody, he is not even on my sons
birth certificate because he refused to sign it, because he didn't want him.

Michelle - posted on 08/25/2015

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Jodi is correct. Unless you have court orders saying that you have full custody then there's not much you can do. Like Jodi said, you can go to court but they will ask your son where he would prefer to be.
You should discuss it all with a lawyer and see what advice they can give you.

Jodi - posted on 08/25/2015

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Firstly, the child is 15. How is it that he just "pushed" his way into another adult's life without that adult's consent. You can't accuse your 15 year old of being to "blame" here.

Sandra may actually be incorrect, depending on the circumstances. If you don't have any court orders demonstrating your have custody and the father has no rights, then your 15 year old can live with his father if he chooses to, and there is nothing anyone will do about it until you take it to court unless your child is in any immediate danger of abuse or neglect.

Do you have any legal documents establishing legal custody? If not, then that's where you need to start - filing for legal custody. But I will warn you, most jurisdictions will consider the wishes of the child at this age.

Sandra - posted on 08/25/2015

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This is impossible dear, try and get a solicitor to help you fight for you to have your son bac

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