Martina - posted on 04/24/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
Ok I am totally new at this and this is my first post.
I have a 15 1/2 year old daughter. We recently moved to LA to support her acting career. She is inherently and undeniably talented and been working so there is no question in my mind that the move was necessary. She is also doing online school due to her acting schedule- So, her and I (I am a single mom) are living together 24/7. She isn't seeing her dad right now and we don't have a social network as of yet so it's been rough.
Now, despite moving here and driving her everywhere, etc.. I am treated badly and dis-respectfully on a regular basis. I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells and losing myself in the process. I try to talk to her and she treats me like I am an imbecile. When I have done something that upsets her (reasonably or not), she doesn't talk to me for days. I have sent her texts and get nothing. She is also in a fight with her dad and hasn't spoken to him for 6 weeks. I know a lot of this is teenage daughter stuff but I am concerned about her inability to let things go and also about her isolating herself and getting depressed. I wish she knew I had her back, wasn't her enemy and could move past this debilitating anger. I feel like the only way she forgives me for anything is if I cower and apologize. Half the time I don't even know what she's upset about. But I am also a big time nurturer and the anger from her makes me physically sick. I stopped working to support her career and to reinvent mine once she's a bit more established. I have stopped dating because she feels like I am never home (would be out maybe 1 or 2 evenings and a couple of Sundays). I had a successful, intelligent career and now I just feel like a worthless person who is completely subjected to her whims and moods. Not the kind of person I want her to see me as. I guess my question is multiple... How do I get her to move past difficult situations? How do I get her to see that I am not the enemy? How do I keep from losing myself in the meantime???
Sorry for the book BTW!