Tammy - posted on 05/15/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
I've been having trouble with my 15 year old daughter since she was 13. She is not a bad girl, I've seen worse but in the last couple of years she has had behavior issues. She has no motivation to do anything she is quitting playing piano, her grades are poor, she won't do anything around the house.
When I put my foot down and take away her iPad she runs away. Every time I give her an ultimatum she runs away. I've had to call the police to find her. A month ago she had a break down and I found out she was cutting herself. I was horrified, I just had a baby who is 4 months old now and she's becoming too much. I took away her iPad when I found she was cutting and spoke to social workers with her about it and she seemed to be coming around. So I gave it back last weekend and now her moods are crappy towards me again. I'm afraid to take it away again because I don't want her to have another cutting episode or slam doors or run away.
I try to ignore her and just let her be but it really bothers me that she doesn't follow through with her responsibilities. Theres gotta be a way around this, for her to learn that theres more to the world than just social networking. Also, the only way I make her happy is when I spend money on her that I don't have. She literally ignores everything I ask her to do and all I end up doing is nagging and getting stressed and depressed. I'm not sure how much more I can take. She also become very loud and my house is no longer peaceful, from the minute she gets home from school to the minute she wakes up she's either singing, has this horrible "screamo" music on, stomps around the house loudly, goes in and out of her room like 20 times, each time loudly closing the door. I've tried talking to her and each time she says mmhmm and rolls her eyes. There's gotta be a way to get some respect?