15 yr old Step Daughter

Sally - posted on 12/15/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I just need help with how to get along with my 15 yr old step daughter. We have lived together as a family for 3 years and our relationship is getting worse. I don't know what to do

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Michelle - posted on 12/16/2015

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You definitely DON'T give in to her demands! That's not teaching her anything except that if she doesn't get her own way then she can throw a tantrum and get it anyway.
Your husband needs to talk with his ex and they need to be on the same page. She shouldn't be welcome at her Mother's house just because she doesn't like your rules.
The Mother needs to send her back and not allow her to stay.
If she wants to act like a toddler then she should be treated like one. Obviously she has grown up like this though, so it's harder to change what she knows.
Just think about when she gets a job and is told what to do by her boss, if she doesn't want to is she going to throw a tantrum then?

Sally - posted on 12/16/2015

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Thank you any advise is great. I do try but she hates the word no and she is asking to go to parties with older teens where drink is available and she tells me and her dad we should just let her go do what she wants and learn herself if it's right for her. She has tantrums and goes off to her mums for a couple of days ( she lives with us full time) and then says if I come back can I go to the party as my mum said I can go if I'm still staying at hers

Do we say no and risk her moving out forever or do we give in to her and just let her do what she wants ??

I'm exhausted with it all tbh I'm feeling like I can't take much more

Thank you again

Renae_flory - posted on 12/15/2015

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HELLO,
FIRST OFF SHE IS 15 SHE IS IN THE TEENS MEANING SHE WILL NOT LIKE ANYTHING YOU SAY TO HER. I KNOW THIS BECAUSE I WAS HER ONCE. TRY TO FINED THINGS SHE LIKES TO DO. IF SHE LIKES GETTING HER NAILS DONE THEN TAKE HER TO DO THAT. TAKE HER TO LUNCH AND JUST TALK(NOT ABOUT BAD THING) SLOWLY SHE WILL OPEN UP TO YOU. IT TOOK ME ABOUT 5 YEARS TO OPEN UP TO MY STEP PARENTS BECAUSE THEY HAD NO CLUE WHAT I LIKED TO DO. THEY THOUGHT I WAS JUST MAD AT THEM. WELL IT WAS BECAUSE THEY NEVER TRYED TO OPEN UP AND HAVE SOME TIME WITH ME.
HOPE THIS HELPS YOU.

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