Carrie - posted on 12/31/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years is raising his almost adult 2 children. Ages 17 (girl) and age 20 (boy). No help nor support from their mother. I have 3 children myself 25 (boy) 23 (boy) (both out on their own with their own apartments and girlfriend), and I also have a 16 year old (girl) (that lives with me). My kids are so different then my bf's kids and I am having a hard time dealing with it.
Advice is needed.
My bf's son is 20, has a full time job, takes home about $400 a week still lives with my bf pays NO bills in the house, does not buy any food, personals, and buys no household products, nothing towards the house. He gives his dad money for his cell phone and car insurance (he is on his dads plan and policy for car insurance). He pays his truck payment, credit card payment and student loan payment. His 17 year old daughter is a senior and works part time. She pay for absolutely nothing.. not even her own personal things. She has a different boyfriend every month (10 this past year). She stays out everyday and night whenever she wants to. And ALWAYS argues with her dad when he tells her she can not do something, and he gives into her. He has brought her 2 cars in the past year because she recked the 1st one. She does not pay for her car insurance and does not pay for any repairs that need to be done to the car, her dad does. I have tried talking to him many times and have told him if he does NOT start making her pay for something she will NEVER learn how to live on her own. He WILL not listen to me. I own my own home and he has his own home, so we do not live together. We see each other a few times a week. I have had to back off from staying at his house because it bothers me so much to know what is going on with the way his kids treat him. I am afraid if things do not change with his kids that our relationship will not go any further. We both love each other very much and we have talked about getting married but I just don't see anything changing in his situation. He is 50 and I will be 43 soon. I do not want to have a weekend relationship with him forever. Any advice on how to deal with my situation?