16 weeks- First Pregnancy- HELP!!

Zury - posted on 04/10/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I just found out I'm 16 weeks pregnant. 16 weeks ago, it was December. I went to planned parenthood in January to get birth control. Apparently the pregnancy test I took there was a few days since i conceived around the 15-30 of December. So since January 15, I've been on birth control and the symptoms from the pill were really from pregnancy. I had also been smoking and i drank a few times. I was shocked when I heard the heartbeat which was strong at 154 beats per minute on Thursday. I was afraid the baby would've been damaged or miscarried. I have a little bit of a baby bump but I feel like it should be bigger. In the past day it looks to be smaller. This is my first pregnancy and I have had no pains but I'm so worried :(

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Sarah - posted on 04/13/2012

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Actually the size of your hips has NOTHING to do with how easy/difficult your labour will be. There can be problems with the baby fitting through, but this can not be seen externally, it's determined by the interior diameter and shape of your pelvis. Statistically young mothers can have more complications with pregnancy and delivery, but this doesn't mean that you will. Make sure you get a good doctor or midwife and see him/her regularly. Also, make sure you take your prenatal vitamins. It's hard the first time around no matter how old you are because you're going into it with nerves and little knowledge about what to expect. Get yourself a really good pregnancy book and read it. Educate yourself on what is going on in your body and what to expect. Also educate yourself on things like pain control during delivery, breastfeeding (if that's you're choice), what to expect post-partum (after delivery), newborn and baby care, what is normal/not normal to see in newborn babies, etc. Parenthood is a HUGE learning curve and even those who have done it before learn something new each time they go through it. Good luck to you!

Dove - posted on 04/12/2012

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I have a cousin who gave birth at 15. Her and the baby were fine. I was much older, but I'm also much smaller than a 15 year old and managed my pregnancies ok.



Just continue to take care of yourself and that baby.

Emily - posted on 04/10/2012

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Congratulations! I wouldn't worry too much, though I know that's easier said than done. Your baby is very unlikely to have damage from what's happened so far (birth defects are pretty rare, even in less than ideal conditions).



It's normal to not have a huge bump at this point in your pregnancy, especially being a first-time mom. It will also be normal for it to seem to change, even be smaller at times, just due to your own body's changes.. being bloated, etc. One thing that was fun for me in my second pregnancy was I took a picture of my belly every two weeks. It's cool to watch it change over time, though it's hard day to day to notice any difference!



You and your baby will be fine.. take care of yourself, but don't stress too much. Women have been having babies for millenium, even in difficult conditions. Enjoy your pregnancy :)

Rachel - posted on 04/10/2012

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Stress hormones can potentially alter the structure of the brain and hinder development of the baby; an effect which can begin to develop as early as 17 weeks after conception. As a result, the brain function of the baby can suffer, leading to behavioral issues and a lowering of the IQ. Stress experienced by mothers during pregnancy might cause them to have smaller babies. This is believed to be caused due to a reduced blood flow through the arteries that feed the baby. it can lead to potentially serious health complications, including a greater chance of developing coronary heart disease, diabetes and depression later in life.

Rachel - posted on 04/10/2012

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First things first relax & don't stress out because stress is bad for the baby. Also do your very very best to stop smoking because that is also bad for the baby. Not everyone has pain all the time. Everyone is different & every pregnancy is different. I am pregnant with my third child right now & I'm not having the same symptoms as I did with the first 2. Usually you wont show all that much until you are over 20 weeks pregnant so no need to worry about that. The pains you might have had in your abdomen will die down or stop all together around this time because your uterus & stuff have gotten adjusted to where they need to be. Make sure you keep up with doctor visits & if you have any concern call your doctor or search online. I found a lot of useful info online when I was pregnant with my first one .

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Kim - posted on 12/24/2014

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My daughter is 9 weeks pregnant and having horrible morning sickness does anyone have any advice. She is 21 and this is her firstpregnancy

Zury - posted on 04/12/2012

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Ohh I should do that. Thanks for the help. I bring any concerns here if I don't get the chance to see my doctor. :)

Rachel - posted on 04/12/2012

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Yes deff young but it happens. Having big hips just mens you have birthing hips. As long as you eat right & do what your suppose to do you should be fine. Make sure to bring any concerns you may have to your doctor so that either he or she can help you. With this being your first one you will have a lot of questions so don't be afraid to ask them. We are all here to help especially your doctor. What helped me with my first is I kept a notebook that I wrote down any questions I may have had so I would forget then I would take it with me to my appointments.

Zury - posted on 04/12/2012

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I'm 15 by the way. 16 in may. Yea it's young but either way, I could never abort a baby. I have a friend that lost her baby and she was my age. Apparently she had a weak cervix so the weight of the baby was too much. I don't know if having big hips helps with the pregnancy but she was really tiny. I'm Cuban so I have bigger hips than a few girls my age and I weigh around 130lbs. I've always had a pretty good immune system but I wondered if that could support the baby as it gets bigger.

Dove - posted on 04/10/2012

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How old are you? In the grand scheme of things it doesn't REALLY matter since the baby is coming anyway. I'm just curious.



Hang in there! My cousin-in-law had wacky periods, so she didn't know she was pregnant til she was 4 months along. She partied quite a few times before finding out she was pregnant and she ended up giving birth to a healthy little boy who is almost 19 now. ♥



The fact that you've been able to quit smoking is wonderful. TRY to relax. I know it's easy to stress, but whatever has or has not happened to your baby can not be changed. Just take care of yourself from here on out.

Zury - posted on 04/10/2012

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I stopped smoking the second I found out. I cut all caffine including soda and coffee. I am very paranoid. I moved out and am living with my boyfriends family now to reduce stress at my house since my family is very judgmental and just horrible in general. I am very young and never expected this. It was hard calling my teacher this morning and telling him what happened but there was no way I could turn in work. I was thinking of getting a baby heart monitor but I don't have the money for that unfortunately. Thanks for the advice. I'll try to not stress out so much. By the way, how does stress effect the baby?

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