16 year old and hygiene

America - posted on 09/16/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Although my daughter does take care of herself( washing etc) she can't seem to wash her hair properly and she leaves residue on the crown of her head. My issue is that when I approach her and tell her that I can wash it for her or try and show her she gets very angry with me and says that I've insulted her. I just can't seem to get through to her that I only want her to be her best. I don't want her to resent me but I don't know that I can just ignore what I'm seeing when I see her hair. I've tried to be gentle and choose my words carefully but nothing works. She does occasionally let me was her hair for her but this is stArting to cause a rift between us. Any suggestions?

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America - posted on 09/16/2014

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Yes thank you. I'm in complete agreement with your response. I just have to remember that it is just hair like you said.
Thanks again.

Chet - posted on 09/16/2014

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I would mostly leave it alone. I think she'll ask you for help if she wants it. You can try telling her that you don't mind washing her hair if she wants you to. But make it clear that you're available to help if _she_ wants. It's her hair. This isn't life threatening, and she is 16.

Your relationship is more important than hair... and she'll have an easier time coming to you when she needs help if you're on good terms.

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