16 year old boy hasn't attended school in a week what's his punishment

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Morgan - posted on 04/24/2014

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oh my that is not good. I would go to the principle and report. How old is the child?
Also if the principle does not do anything and the matter continues to progress I would even go higher up the school district.
Depending on the age of the child and the aggression and actual statements the teacher is making you could possibility even file an official report.

Khaleng - posted on 04/24/2014

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My. Child's teacher has beaten my child like nobody's business and he swears on him what can i do please help.

Morgan - posted on 04/23/2014

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I was the kid who would always skip school, I really just needed someone to talk to about the things that were going on. Sit him down and discuss what he is doing instead and why he is choosing to skip. Try to avoid talking down on him but with him and on his level. Hopefully he will open up and the two of you can hit the issue head on together.
good luck!

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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Shawnn makes a good point, about why children like or dislike school. Again, I think the most important question here is WHY is he choosing not to attend?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/22/2014

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Why on earth are you asking US what punishment YOU should assign your kid for skipping school?

1) escorted journey to class each day. If this doesn't work, a few days off work to walk your entitled young man to each classroom, visit with teacher...make sure the kid knows you're involved

2) rescind any and all privileges. He's got schoolwork to catch up on.

Honestly, I really don't know. My kids would have NEVER contemplated skipping for any reason. My eldest did do poorly in some classes, which he made up in summer school at the local community college, and paid for out of his own pocket. In this way, he discovered he LIKES school, as long as the material is presented to him in 'his' way. He's now into 2nd year in University.

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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Jody i notice you are a teacher, i also would like to note i was on a first name basis with all her teachers and principal.....lol...but seriously, i talked to all of them regularly and knew what she was up to, i stayed on it so she knew i found out ever time she screwed up......the school was on my my 5 phone list (cheaper calls from my cell) i work in the city it was costing me a fortune staying in touch with the principal........

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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i also speak from my own childhood and teenaged years that were anything but easy......to look at my past, through no fault of mine its a wonder i managed to do so well...and i have

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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Of course you did something right. And your latest post made sense. I just think it is a matter of finding that currency that works for each child. Although, I would rephrase to be natural AND logical consequences.

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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we've all made them, we all have, why not learn from them.....my track record is good......lol...two daughters 24 and 17 both good girls 24 year old graduated and moved out when she was 19 , out on her own, working fulltime and engaged....17 year old graduating and on to college, so 2 for 2....not bad ....lol...I did something right.......

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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Yes, and that's all about understanding your child's currency. Every child has one. My children each have a different currency and motivation. And believe me, there is no child of mine that skips school. Out of 4 kids. Okay, so one is still only 9, but 3 out of 4 so far is a pretty good record.

What it comes down to is learning to stop enabling your child's behaviour and nip it in the bud early.

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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so to recap......Motivate them to do better........allow natural consequences to happen

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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I drove myself nuts that first year worrying about her future, crying, missing work myself, but I finally realised she need motivation more than anything.........make her want it, show her/ him what can be the benefits of hard work....yes I even bribed her some in the beginning.....you will get that new bedroom decorated when I see no skips for the next 3 months, or you want the beautiful dress you seen at the mall, bring me home a good report......MOTIVATE him/her

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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Wendy, I guess I just recall a post from you giving a bunch of advice on the basis of your mistakes....

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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consequences of skipping are detentions, loss of class time, therefor failing grades...and on to summer school....you will only drive yourself nuts trying to push them into doing what u want, they have to want to do it....that's where you come in showing them why its worth it......she was denied any extra privileges at home also......for example: rewards like new phone she badly wanted, lap top, she has never gotten but will for college, shes worked hard for it, money for a special school trip to Ottawa she didn't get to go.......things like that....I always maintained I love you support you but extras are for working hard not slacking off.....

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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No, I also noted that your Year 9 daughter was suspended from school 7 times. I'm just wondering what you did then. As I said earlier, most of the kids who don't turn up at school and truant regularly are enabled by their parents in some way. I just read your post and wondered if that's what you did with your daughter - took away her iPod and phone. Or whether you took it several steps further.

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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wow I don't know why I bother.........I was also not talking about just ipods when I mentioned it just using that as a example....sorry my post didn't help you if that's what u got out if it........

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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Hmmm, I wasn't talking about just iPods when I said privileges. Maybe I should have spelled it out because people assume that is the only privilege people have these days? I don't know. I was talking a LOT more than that - REAL world logical consequences that happen when you don't have a job.

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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to add to that my daughter is also enrolled in college for September......phycology, who would have thought.....lol.....from failing and suspensions to college, what a change up....love it! good luck with you're son......

Wendy - posted on 04/22/2014

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Natural consequence is failing grade and summer school, no option that's what comes from skipping............yes been there done that with my now 17 year old daughter.......sit him down and explain to him everything that comes from not going to school, understand and explain to him he is only hurting himself....you will still have your education, job , home.......he will be wasting away in summer school or fail and be unable to get employed and his ass will be walking the streets as a adult......everybody in the house is a contributing member, school right now is his part, don't go he suffers the consequences of his actions.....Make him accountable for himself, you will not be there to take away his phone when he is 25 and unable to feed his family because of his lack of getting himself together, tell him that.......hurting himself only.......its hard but he's 16 he needs to man up and do the right things himself, not because you will take his ipod or phone..........My daughter knew there was no option other than completing grade 12, NO OTHER OPTION...........IN ORDER TO DO IT SHE COULD DO IT THE EASY WAY O THE HARD WAY.....her choice.......She was suspended 7 times in grade 9 and failed every course.....she did summer school every summer and credit recovery....she is graduating in june with all her clasmates with all her credits......I could have taken every piece of furniture out of her room and left her with a mattress on floor and she wouldn't have cared.......however she is a smart lassie and when she realised her actions were only going to hurt herself she started getting shit done...........stay on him, remind him every day why he's going to school and there is no other option, encourage with positive reinforcement, treat him as a man he screws up, he pays the consequences..... my 2 cents, hope it helps you figure it out, parenting each child is so different find what works with him.......if what you're doing is not working try another way........

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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I have students like this. The parents are generally in some way enabling the behaviour.

Michelle - posted on 04/22/2014

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I would be taking him to school and walking him in and then waiting for him at the end of the day.
You also take away all his privileges like Jodi said.

Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014

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Why isn't he attending school? And what have you already done about it?

If it was my 16 year old (yes I have one) he would lose every privilege he has, because it's his damn job to go to school. That's right, I have a job, my husband has a job, and my children have a job to go to school. They don't do their job, they lose privileges, because you have to earn them.

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