16 year old daughter moved out

Jessica - posted on 04/03/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 16 year old daughter has had a horrible attitude towards me lately. Everything I say or do seems to be wrong. She decided last week that she wanted to go live with her father. At first she said that I was to hard on her and then told me that it wasn't as much to do with me and more to do with she just wanted to live with her dad.
She had spoke to her father about moving in with him a few weeks prior and he told her to talk to me about it which she didn't do because she said she didn't want to hurt me.
I am devastated. Her 14 year old sister is devastated. I don't know how to even begin to cope with this. I have had her with me nearly everyday for 16 years and now she's not here. I worry that her father will let her do as she pleases and not keep her safe like i would.
I am so heartbroken. I have never felt so helpless, guilty, or so much like a failure. How do I cope with this and how do I comfort my 14 year old daughter that is hurting just as much as I am?


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/05/2016




I know that you don't think that her father would "keep her safe" like you would...but why in the world would you wonder that? He's a parent. You are a parent. She simply wants to live with the parent that she hasn't been living with.

Its common.

Raye - posted on 04/04/2016




It sounds like typical teenage rebellion. When faced with one household that has set rules and one that is more lenient, they will typically chose the one more lenient. She probably wants to be with dad because she thinks she can get her way more. That really says that you've done well at parenting in your house, and he's not doing as much. It's sad for all of you, really. Hopefully he gets wise to her games and starts implementing rules. Maybe she'll see that it's not so grand over at dear ol' dad's. Who knows? Just let her know you still love her and she's welcome to come back home. Hopefully you will make a plan with the father where she still stays with you some of the time.

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