16 year old daughter wanting septum pierced? Help!!

Madison - posted on 11/29/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi, so I'm not a mom. I'm the 16 year old daughter (17 in a month). Anywho, I want to get my septum pierced (before any of you say don't do that, it isn't pierced through cartilage so it's fine and will heal fine). I wrote my mom a nice 4 page essay of why it's important to me, all the details, pictures, cost, where i'll get it pierced, healing time, etc. Surprisingly she said yes, coming from a mother who absolutely despises piercings and tattoos, or any form of body "art". However, when I asked when, she said I had to pass my DMV test and take me the same day, but it had to be around the time when no family was here to visit. But, 3 months later, I passed my DMV test and she didn't say anything, I asked her when I could get my piercing and then she told me all of a sudden that I'm not allowed to get it and that she needs to think about it (talk to a ton of people, etc. etc.) and that she would give me an answer by October 1st (5 days later.) She completely avoided it and so I confronted her, asking her kindly if she has thought about it - let's just say she got really defensive and screamed at me for no reason. I'm just trying to be mature about it. Well basically she doesn't want me to get it because SHE most likely doesn't want it, but the main reason is she doesn't want to hear crap from family and doesn't want to get a reputation of a bad parent. Which doesn't make any sense because I told her that you can flip septums up and that i can hide it for now if she doesn't want to deal with people bashing her ego.
Anyways, after she yelled at me she said she had to think about it more, but for now I can't get anything till i'm 21 or moved out, which is bullshit (excuse my french.). She never talked to me about it again and has never brought it up to me, but her boyfriend told me she has been telling everyone in my family that I want a nose piercing, not asking for their opinion, just telling them as if it's a crime.
Anyways, I've been waiting for quite a long time now, and i was wanting to ask again to get it for my birthday (january).
So I was just wondering what to do? Or how to ask? I'm probably going to write another note for her because she is the type of person that doesn't conversate with an open mind and won't listen to what you have to say.
Thank you very much, it's greatly appreciated.

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Michelle - posted on 11/30/2013

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Well while you are a child and living in her house then she sets the rules. I would expect my children to do the same.

Mardi - posted on 12/01/2013

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I have a 'not under my roof' policy on all these things.

Yes you are nearly and adult, you have nearly moved out, you are just about supporting yourself.......but in the end, your not.

If you respected your mother, as you claim she isn't respecting you, you would wait it out and when you are supporting yourself...& moved out of home & are an adult.

Its great your so well informed, if you still want it done when you are old enough, go for it.

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Michelle - posted on 12/01/2013

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Out of the mouth of a typical teenager.
I used to say the exact same thing about my Mother. I wasn't going to be so mean and I was going to be the best Mum in the world.
Darling you are proving that you are too young to make these decisions. Wait until you're an adult and then no one can stop you. It's only a couple of years away.

Madison - posted on 11/30/2013

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Yes, I understand there are rules, but I'm a pretty good daughter. Also, I don't see why it's a big deal - you can remove piercings and they don't scar over if done correctly, i understand the commitments, and it's my body, i'm almost old enough to move out. I just don't want to raise my kid thinking they don't have any right to express themselves - of course I don't want them wearing garters or something at age 13 and wanting a tattoo at age 12, I would talk it over with my kid and decide when they are old enough depending how they mature.

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