Lynn - posted on 11/08/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
My daughter and I have always been extremely close. Her father was in and out of our home but never was a consistent parent and we divorced finally after multiple affairs (on his part), when she was 12. She has been my life. Making sure she has what she needs and most of what she wants has been my priority. I have worked hard to make ends meet, and we have always had a good relationship. Two weeks ago she abruptly left home and her father picked her up and took her to his place. He has taken her out of her school and signed her up an hour away where he lives. I'm devastated to say the least. She was struggling with obeying the rules, regarding internet, dating, smoking and school. He is much more lenient with her and I think she thinks he will let her do more of what she wants. I have spoken to my attorney who says I can enforce her to come home (I have physical custody), but I don't think I want to push that. I text her and tell her I love her, and I think I probably sound pathetic. She is rude to me and says she doesn't want to talk. Her father lives with a woman and I don't want my daughter there full time but I feel helpless and I am having trouble eating and sleeping. I don't want to keep texting her and asking her why she is doing this, but I am actually in physical pain from how much I miss her and how hurt I feel. It's like a switch flipped and I don't recognize this child anymore. She is cold, rude and mean. Her dad and I do not speak, only through lawyers. He is extremely narcissistic and believe me, he is doing this to hurt me more than anything. Any advice would be helpful.. thanks.