16 years old and A week late on my period

Anonymous - posted on 03/28/2014 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I am a week late on my period I was stupid and had unprotected sex on the 1st of this month. When is a good time to take a pregnancy test because I have taken 3 and they all came out negative. Please help. ):

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[momoftwo] - posted on 04/01/2014

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My best advice also would be if you aren't pregnant find a way to protect yourself that will be best for you and one that will work because the pull out method is not an option! LOL (seriously it doesn't work)
There's a lot of different types of birth controls I've had to switch different pills many times... One of them was Yasmin, yikes!

Anywho, from poor choices in life I wound up pregnant at 16, and the father was/is the biggest douchbag in the world!
I sucked it up though and I raised her the same as any good grown up mom would (which is rare in the town where I live)....
She is now 6 years old and had her birthday a few days ago. She's a big sister to a 2 year old brother and I am happily with the boys father, going on 3 years! :) I don't regret it but it's been a huge struggle to get to where I am now. I'm going to be finishing my highschool at home now which will also be hard but I hope to get through it.
If you are pregnant though make sure you be the best mommy you can be, it really is a blessing but just don't be out partying all the time it's terrible, my friends are doing it to their kids and it just breaks my heart. It truly does affect them.
And for the love of god that guy is a freaking idiot! Someone should try a home abortion on him for talking so stupidly.
Having an abortion is the most cruel selfish thing anyone can do. Also you would regret it every day for the rest of your life if you have ever done that.
He just wants it done so he won't have to pay child support (which you'd still be able to get from him if you were pregnant) and he doesn't want to take responsibility for his actions too? What a loser and good riddons! LOL

Oh! To answer your question too the most effective way to find out if your pregnant is the doctor can do a blood test.
If you are doing the home pregnancy test though do it in the morning with your very FIRST pee, and you must do it a day or two before your expected period. If you aren't sure when your period is (because mine was all over the place without birth control) just do it 3 weeks after you had unprotected sex.

Jodi - posted on 03/30/2014

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LOL, so your mum is your best friend and knows everything......but you hid everything from her. Um, yeah, ok.

Please stop justifying having unprotected sex at 16. If you have a family history of getting knocked up at 14, 15 or 16, then you, my dear, are a statistic. Look it up. Wouldn't you like YOUR kids to get out of that cycle? I know it isn't what I'd want for my kids, being parents at that age.

Christina - posted on 03/30/2014

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Good for you huni.
Don't worry about the guy, if that's what he is like he is not worth your energy or time!
It's good that you are mature enough to know and admit you have made a mistake but don't let people keep throwing it in your face, it'll only get you down.
I hope that when you get to see your dr or whoever that it goes ok. Don't feel that you have to keep in touch and let us what happens, you have enough going on but it's nice that you're thinking about it. :)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/30/2014

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Hey, most of us started having sex around this age. Come on now. The problem is that you are not using protection. The chances of pregnancy are inevitable, and also std's. So if you are going to have sex, you must use protection.

The next pregnancy test you take, make sure it is the first pee of the morning. That is when it is highest concentration of hormones. Regardless of the results, go see your doctor also. If your previous bc made you feel like crap, there are others on the market to try. But double up. Use bc, and use condoms. You don't want dirty dick giving you an infection or an std.

Christina - posted on 03/30/2014

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Hiya
I agree with Debs. Make an appointment with your Dr or G.U.M (not that I have personally heard of it) especially as you've had brown discharge. Tender breast, nausea are all normal with period and if you are pregnant.
If it turns out that you are, you need to decide what you want to do then talk to the guy. Whatever you decide is O.K and it's our body and life so it is your decision and your's alone.
If you are and decide you do want it, I won't lie, it isn't always easy having and bringing up children but everyone is different, some people find it really easy and others find it really hard.
For now though, just concentrate on finding out what's going on and if you are or not and deal with the rest of it, if it comes to that.
Here if you want to chat, Good luck.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/02/2014

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There is no excuse not to use protection. I don't care who had babies when, this is about you. You don't need to follow in everyones foot steps and I am sure that is not what they want for your life. They have lived through it and understand how hard it is raising a child at such a young age.

Shaida - posted on 04/02/2014

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Go and see a doctor straight away because you may not be pregnant but you may have problems, sometimes people miss out their periods because there are young like yourself, it a body change.

Anonymous - posted on 03/30/2014

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You haven't seen my attitude yet. I hid everything from my mom until I decided to come out with it. She wasn't pissed because she was the same way when she was my age. My dad was my age when I was born. My mom was 14. My dad's mom was 14 when she had twins. So my family obviously wouldn't care or be pissed off. They'd be upset with me but they'd get over it pretty quick. If I knew asking for simple advice would start this I sure wouldn't have started it.

Jodi - posted on 03/30/2014

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Sweetheart, I HAVE 16 year old, and my point is that if this was the attitude, I would be pissed. Thankfully, my 16 year old has more sense than you when it comes to sex and birth control. If you are NOT pregnant, let's hope it will be lesson learned.

Anonymous - posted on 03/30/2014

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It will not become anyone's problem. The baby would be loved no matter what.

Anonymous - posted on 03/30/2014

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Look the father wants nothing to do with me he ended our relationship right after I told him I'm late he also said if I'm pregnant he's signing his rights away. I told him I wasn't using birth control and he said that's fine. My parents are separated I have my mom she is my best friend she knows everything she is upset about the choices I have made but she and my dad did the exact same thing at my age except she got pregnant with me thinking it would help their relationship. If I'm truly pregnant I would do everything I possibly can to support my baby. Yes I am young I know and I have my whole life ahead of me but I will be okay. I'm tired of the negativity. You're not my mom so you can't be pissed at me. I am a human being!

Jodi - posted on 03/30/2014

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As I said, there is more than one method of birth control. There ARE non-hormonal methods. If you aren't going to use any birth control, at least be honest with the person you hare having sex with that you aren't using any. If you have unprotected sex, it isn't ONLY your problem. That's the point. Who is going to support the baby? At your age, you are probably still in school and living with your parents. It becomes THEIR problem. If you were my kid, I'd be REALLY pissed at your choice to have unprotected sex because it is selfish. What about the father? It becomes HIS problem too. What about the baby that results in your poor choice? It becomes the baby's problem as well, even if you decide to abort (and I would not recommend any home abortion methods, your boyfriend is a moron. This isn't just about you.

If you truly are pregnant, you need to see your doctor. But you NEED to STOP having unprotected sex if you do not want a baby.

Anonymous - posted on 03/30/2014

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Yes I know it was not responsible of me not to use protection. People make mistakes. I came here for help not to be put down. I've already talked to the guy and he wants nothing to do with me anymore. He said if I'm pregnant then I need to terminate the pregnancy he even sent me text messages with home abortion methods. To those of you that are actually trying to help instead of basically calling me stupid and irresponsible thank you. To the others who have commented please stop being negative. It's my body and I will do what I want with it if I wanna have sex I promise you I will have sex if I don't wanna be on birth control because of the way it makes me feel then I'm not going to be on birth control. If I don't use protection that's my problem. I will be taking another test Tuesday morning before school and after that I will schedule an appointment. I will keep posted for those who actually care and aren't being so freaking negative towards this situation. Michelle: I'm not a child anymore I'll be 17 in august. I'm growing up and I'm experimenting. Look down on me I really don't care. I am human I will make stupid choices EVERYONE makes them.

Michelle - posted on 03/30/2014

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Yes sex is a part of life for ADULTS in a relationship, NOT for children.
If you aren't responsible enough to use protection (not just the pill, condoms don't affect your hormones!) then you aren't responsible enough for sex.

Go and see your doctor and let your boyfriend know you aren't on any birth control.

Debs - posted on 03/30/2014

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Hi there im an older mum im 38 and why you might not want to take my advice id like to help.
We were all 16 once and all made mistakes some bigger than others. Firstly id make an appointment to either see your GP or health professional to rule out the possibility of pregnancy or another good place is the G.U.M which stands for genito urinary medicine clinic and they specialise in sexual health of all ages. They will test you for
Pregnancy and also do a full health check which would be a good idea as you used no protection. It will give u peace of mind and also the chance to discuss further birth control which would suit you the best and for you own needs.
Try not to get down as you will get through this. Having children is very rewarding but my advice is that you should find out who you are as a person and build a life for yourself and be able to support yourself before you think of having a child. But if you did find yourself pregnant its not the end of your life and there is full help out there to advise what is the best for you. Dont listen to bad or negative conments just take the information you need and use it wisely. Good luck hunny xx

Jodi - posted on 03/28/2014

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So you are telling me that you are 16 and not using any birth control? That is just insane. Does your boyfriend know he will get to be a daddy soon?

You do realise there are other forms of birth control, right?

Jessica - posted on 03/28/2014

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hey im jessica im 20 girl you betta use proctection n idk some pregnancy test be whack I would just go to the doctor n find out..ITS VERY VERY VERY HARD RAISING A KID.

Anonymous - posted on 03/28/2014

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Well I'm not gonna stop having sex. It's a part of life. I used to be on birth control and it made me moody and very very sleepy all the time I couldn't get through my classes because of it.

Jodi - posted on 03/28/2014

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In fact, given you are only 16, my advice would be that you just stop having sex unless you are ready to have a baby.

Jodi - posted on 03/28/2014

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Now would be an ok time to do a test. If it is still negative, see your doctor. And if it turns out you aren't....get yourself some birth control.

Anonymous - posted on 03/28/2014

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A week after I had sex I also had a brownish discharge and recently my breasts have been very tender, I am nauseated, fatigue. However the tests were negative and but I haven't started my period or even felt like I was gonna start my period.

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