Sara - posted on 01/12/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
I'm new to the site, so please be kind. I'm looking for encouragement rather than criticism since both my husband and I have been very depressed about the developmental delays in our twins.
I have 17 month old twin boy/girl. Their motor skill development was on time. My son actually started crawling early at 6 months and both were walking and running by 13 months. They started saying mama and dada at 12 months and both were saying Emma (my daughter's name) by 13 months. But since then, things have been stagnant. Both respond to their names maybe 30% of the time. Don't follow command other than when being told no and don't point or say anything else. My daughter still says Emma if we ask her to but my son doesn't anymore. Both have good motor skills, climb everything and are very active. Both seem to be happy kids, social and affectionate. My son will occasionally bring toys to us or to strangers and tries to socialize with strangers; my daughter is more reserved. My son stopped eating solids at around 12 months and would cry when offered solids. We've been doing occupational therapy with him, not sure how much occupational therapy has helped but at least he's now eating limited solid food such as chicken nuggets. My daughter had no eating issues just a picky toddler eater. I took my son to a local neurodevelopmental pediatrician for eating issues who told my that his receptive language was also delayed at 9-12 month level and his expressive language was at 12-13 month level, so quite behind. We didn't have my daughter evaluated since she wasn't having eating issues but she's also at the same developmental level. He told us that there is large association of these issues with autism and I feel like that's all I heard at the appointment and my heart almost stopped. I hadn't thought about autism much since my son was always so social and maintained good eye contact but now I'm questioning everything and every little thing that he does now I over-analize. For example, couple of nights ago he started giggling in his high chair and also in the middle of the night in his crib for no reason and when I googled it, I panicked since that's a sign of autism. Or he occasionally walks on tip toes (but so did I til I was 6).
My question is and again please be gentle in your response: Did anyone else's twins have receptive language delay who did well. We're in the process of getting early intervention for language as well. I just need words of encouragement since I feel like I may collapse with stress soon.