Linda - posted on 01/14/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hi, I have a 12 year old boy. I want to say little because to me he still is. But to him, he is a tween. I love him more than my words could ever convey. I know boys can be tough. He has already hit the, you don't love me, you hate me, I hate you phase. Which I knew was coming. It didn't make it any easier but I knew it was coming. He was abused by his father when he was young, always being told he had to do everything perfect or he would get a spanking. My son soon found the word perfect to be an automatic shut off key. I found out what was happening while I was working and put a stop to it. Now my son and I live with a roommate. He is male and for the first year it was good. It was the three of us. My son liked him and he liked my son. He has his own children too though he really hadn't raised them. Everyone has their own situation. His youngest daughters mother who moved to Texas with out telling him, called him and demanded he take her and told him she is bipolar. She said that CPS said if she didn't leave the home that she was going to lose both children. She wasn't for forth coming in regards to what was really going on. The real story was the daughter who just turned 17 while living with her father, was abusive. She was abused so I assume that is where she learned it. But this child would beat her mother and throw toasters, coffee makers, toaster ovens, microwaves, and blenders at her mother and curse. The real reason she had to leave is because in Texas there is this law that if your child is convicted of a crime three times, you lose your children. She called the police on her then 16 year old daughter for these abusive times. Now during all this abuse the daughter would run away and some times spend nights away or call and just refuse to come home. There were so many things that happened and he is only finding that out now. After she has already been here for four months. Now that she has been arrested and placed at a behavioral center. See two weeks ago she slapped her father, and well, he slapped her back. I called the police because it was not going to stop there if I didn't. Well the police talked to both of them and she even got lippy with the cop. Okay fine the officer leaves after telling us that here they do not arrest kids until they have so many points against them. Well, one week later she is sitting next to her father who is sitting next to me. My son was right next to her as we were in the living room on the couch. She started poking him saying dad, dad, dad, and ever time he said what, she would just say hi. He asked her to stop poking him and she said why. He told her because he was trying to watch the movie. She said no your not. Your not even interested. Then she started slapping his arm and back. He told her to stop for the same reason and she said the same thing. He told her if she didn't stop he was going to leave the room. She didn't stop and he got up to leave the room and she started yelling at him telling him no. He walked into his bedroom, went to shut the door and she grabbed the knob and wouldn't let go so that he could not latch or lock the door. He is a smaller man so she had more strength than he as she out weighs him by 60 lbs. He is telling her to let go of the door and she is yelling no. She is saying that he is acting childish and she isn't going away and she won't let go of the door. She keeps yelling to let me in and he told her no that he wanted to be alone and she started shouldering the door. Using her shoulder and body like they do on TV to force him from the door. I told her I was going to record it for the doctor so they could see what kind of help she needed and I didn't even get the chance to record because she came charging at me trying to take my camera. I'm not smaller than her nor am I weaker. She could not take it. She did however knock my phone from my hand. I told her that what she was doing was illegal and that I was going to call the police. She then tried taking my phone. By this time her father came out of his room and I walked down the hall with her still trying to take both my phone and camera. I shoved the camera down my bra and tried to dial but she kept smacking my hands and arms. I finally got into the bedroom and she was standing in the door and got her hands on the top half of my phone. Well as I said, she isn't stronger than I am so I took it back and locked the door. I was so upset I was shaking. I misdialed and called my mom instead but hung up. I called the police while she was trying to use her body to break down the door. Her father got her to go to her room and I came out after hanging up with the police and I told him I was going to wait outside. I grabbed my coat and put on sandles and walked to the front of our apartment building. While I was waiting, I heard through the security door, my roommate yelling my name, and that she had a knife. She grabbed a knife and was coming at me with it. I guess I should have been afraid but I wasn't. I opened the door because I figured if she couldn't get me should would try to hurt him and she threw the knife behind her and right at her dad. Had it not have been for him wearing a leather jacket, he would not have been so lucky. So now living here, she hates my then 11 year old son. Saying he wants to be treated like an adult so she can hit him like one and talk to him like one. She has called him some horrible things.
The point of this is, I have an Emergency Order of Protection for my son who she abuses, and myself. But I live with her father and her mother refuses to take her back. She is 17. I have no job, no income, and no car. But I do have one child, one big mean dog, and a bunch of stuff. He does not want her here. She steals and lies and I could go on but she has no remorse. She cannot accept responsibility for what she has done. It of course is my fault, her fathers fault, and my sons fault. She won't take her medications on time or as she is suppose to take them. She knows what she is doing. She now has Diabetes type 2 but refuses to eat right. She may very well kill herself. I don't know what to do. I'm a student who has no job and no loan money. He is employed but refuses to have her back after she threw the knife at him and slapped him. He tells her to go to her room or do anything and she says no and drops to the floor and sits there saying no. Her mom got her the phone and she won't let him take it and the mother said she will call the police if he takes it from her. Big deal on that. But this situation is impossible. Even after the mother knew her daughter was taken to the center she sent the police here as a form to harass him. Once the police found out they promised not to return. Is there no hope? Will my son and I be homeless? Can she really destroy everything and lawfully get away with it?