17 year old doesn't want to move but hubby and I do - what to do?

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My husband works for the Federal Government and about every 1 and half to 2 years we relocate because we have not found our "happy spot". Well our 21 year old son has finally moved out for the 3rd time about 4 months ago and is doing well and will stay put he says, as he found his happy spot. Our daughter on the other hand is 17 and graduates high school next June (2017) and is refusing to go with. She states she can do it on her own here so she can finish school, get a job and be with friends. What do we do - try to set her up for making it and leave or stay where we are very unhappy and regret moving to? Any help is appreciated please. So confused, frustrated and concerned.

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Jodi - posted on 06/27/2016

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And another deleted account because they ask for an opinion and don't like the answers......

Jodi - posted on 06/27/2016

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Firstly, you weren't attacked. You were questioned about your choice.

Secondly, it isn't just about you anymore. You have children. Compromises have to be made. You have a child who is ALMOST at the point of graduation and wishes to graduate with her friends, and you are concerned about "finding our area of growth and development". I mean...really? Are you listening to yourself?

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I didn't expect to be attacked just some friendly advice.
It's not just about our Happy spot it's about the work as well and finding our area of growth and career advancement. Also neither my husband or I have lived in a big city so we are very concerned about that as well as we are both raised in country life and little crime so it scares us each time she leaves the house because of the horrible things we hear on the news.

Sarah - posted on 06/27/2016

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I agree with Jodi. Honestly if you have moved that many times and that much maybe you need to look within yourselves as to why you can't find you "happy spot" sounds more like a personal issues than a locational issue.

Jodi - posted on 06/27/2016

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You can't wait until your 17 year old has graduated to find your "happy spot"? I mean, it's only 12 months......if that's the only reason you are planning on moving, then that's a bit selfish, really.

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