Sherry - posted on 02/28/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )
My son just turned 17 years old yesterday. There has been friction and issues between my son and his father for months. Most of it stems from his father introducing his girlfriend of only 3 weeks to my son and his younger brother, but there have been other issues prior to this. They just got married last Saturday after only knowing each other 6-7 months.
My ex was so wrapped up with his relationship that he would leave my son's at his apartment and go spend the night with his then girlfriend. Many times they would not be fed or have food left in the apartment. My oldest was kicked out of my ex's apartment a couple of different times, due to issues and arguments.
With the above situations and others, my oldest son has come to resent his dad. I have encouraged him to go to his dads on 'his' parenting time. He won't, nor will he even talk to him on the phone or answer texts.
I have consulted my attorney and she says as long as I am not trying to stop him from going, this is a situation is between them, and they need to resolve it. Although all the laws say anyone under the age of 18 can NOT decide to not comply with scheduled parenting time, he still refuses to go. My ex stated today that since I am letting him stay at my house, I could be charged with contempt.
I can not physically force my 215lb 17 year old son to go. I can't put him in the car and take him. He has a car and today my ex has forbidden him from driving it, due to the issue with parenting time. I said I can't take the car away because he drives to school and work.
If anyone has been in a similar situation, I would appreciate hearing from you.