17-year old wants to quit school

Hilaire - posted on 02/01/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Not for the usual reasons. He's smart, has good grades. I've never heard or read about someone like him. Lies in bed all day, yet says he isn't depressed, won't take anti-depressant his pshycologist prescribed. Says it won't help and doesn't matter. Hasn't given any indication of suicidal thoughts. I enrolled him in an accredited Virtual Online School because he didn't want to go back to his public H.S. and said he wanted to go to the online school. but after just one day, says he won't do it anymore. Says there is nothing wrong with him and to most questions just replies "I don't know" or I don't care." Specific question: if he dropped out for a semester, would he be able to go back to public school if he got better and was willing to do it with help of a therapist?

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Sarah - posted on 02/01/2015

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Depression will worsen if the person does not take action to get better, making it such a tough illness to treat. Maybe he is just a sulky teen, but if he doesn't respond to your efforts to get up and out and moving, he may need more help. If you can catch him at a pleasant time, you can gently ask him, "don't you wish you felt better, wouldn't it be easier if you had the energy to get up and go to school'? He may get defensive and angry but it isn't going to make things worse. Maybe you can get through to him. Does he have any close friends? Good Luck!

Hilaire - posted on 02/01/2015

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Thanks Sara. He does have a TV and video game console, which he used to play a lot. But now he doesn't use them. He does have an I-phone that he uses for games or surfing the web some still, which is about the only thing I can take away now. I have told him he has to move out when he turns 18 if this continues (although I did say I'd pay the first two months of his rent and meals). It just seems to make no impact on him. He does have a couple of appointments coming up with his physchologist and a new therapist that he has just seen once. He is just so uncommunicative and seems to take no interest in helping himself or letting others help him. I've thought of autism, but he has been evaluated for that in the past and was not found to be autistic. He does show some emotions, but not much affection except for our cats. I just haven't seen or read anything like this. That is helpful knowing he could go back to public school if he missed a semester. Perhaps we can concentrate on therapy this semester and over the summer and hope for the best. Maybe being home day after day, while getting therapy will open his eyes to the reality of not doing anything. I will speak with his therapist about the possibility of getting a complete analysis, perhaps at some place like the Mayo Clinic.... if our insurance would help pay for it. Thanks again for your reply.

Sarah - posted on 02/01/2015

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Yes he can go back to public high school. Some kids take five years to complete their education. He is 17, so you have to act before you have no authority. He either complies with the rules or you will provide nothing but a roof and three meals a day until he is 18. Then he'll have to fend for himself. He needs to wake up and either get to school or see a therapist or (even better) both, if he needs medication, he has to give it several weeks to be effective. When I mean a roof and meals, I mean it...no car, phone, tv, computer, bed, clothing etc..It may sound extreme but you need to get a handle on what is holding him back.

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