18 and planning on getting pregnant

Jen - posted on 02/27/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi! I'm 18 and me and my fiancé are thinking about starting our family soon. Since I was 16, I'd planned on having a water birth for my first child and now that might be happening pretty soon. Any advice on that and being pregnant at 18? Would love any and all advice!

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Ev - posted on 02/28/2014

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I have to agree with the two ladies. There should be no hurry to have a family. Once that a child or children come, its not about you and dad no more. You won't be able to just up and go do what you want to when you want to. I also had my first young (21) and was not ready for that in certain ways. There are other ways people are not ready besides finacially. There is also being ready to really handle all that goes with taking care of a baby. Even though I do think I was not ready because of timing for the most part, I did take care of my child and with her father whom I married. We did have another child. But sometimes I would have loved to have had the chance to travel, see places, meet people, and do a great many other things that would not be possible with a child in tow. I do not regret my kids but I am saying I might have waited a bit longer.

Gena - posted on 02/28/2014

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Like Jodi said,be sure to have a good income..kids cost alot,its not that you just buy bottles clothes crib nappys etc in the beginning..the baby grows and then you need to buy bigger clothes,shoes a big bed with bigger duvets etc. The other thing you might want to think about is why not waiting another year or two..to go travel or do stuff that would be way harder and more expensive once you have a child.18 is still young,not saying you shouldnt have a baby but maybe you want to still discover the world abit..just saying to think about those stuff aswell.Once you have a baby theres no more partying (incase you like partys)..lots of nights waking up to feed baby and you basicly have to take responsiblity 24/7 of your baby.Its great having a child,but if i would say its easy..that would be a lie.Its not always easy,they go through phases of teething and they are fussy when they have pain,maybe your baby sleeps the whole night for a week or two and then they start waking up again. Basicly what i am trying to say is a baby isnt just cute and cuddly:) But if you have the income,a safe nice home,a good father for the child and everything it needs to have a baby and you are aware of what a change a baby brings then theres no problem.
Ps i had my son when i was 21,young but i was already married and we had our income and everything planned.

Jodi - posted on 02/27/2014

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Make sure you have finished your education and both have some sort of job prospects. Make sure you can financially support your family (as opposed to relying on your parents). Make sure your fiance has a good, steady, reliable job. Make sure you are covered for health insurance, etc, because it can get expensive.

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