18 month old likes to BITE!

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I posted in another group as well, but have yet to get a response so I am posting here as well. My daughter is biter. She only has 8 teeth and they are all in the front, and she knows how to use them! She bites if she doesn't want to do something (like changing clothes), or if i remove her from something she isn't supposed to have or is doing. My son was never a biter, so I am at a loss as to what to do. I tell her "No biting. Biting hurts!". She is not teething, she just likes to bite.

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I really don't know how to help you, but let me share this with you. I had the exact same problem with one of my daughters when she was in preschool. She was repeatedly biting other children. It was at the point that the preschool was threatening to expel her. I was desperate. Interestingly enough, apparently one of the other mothers told her own child (who had been bitten twice) to bite her back the next time she did it. He did. She screamed and she never bit another child.

I guess my advice to you is that eventually it will work itself out. Some other child will give her a taste of her own medicine and that will be that. I'm sorry, but that's the best advice I can give you.

Claudia - posted on 02/28/2013

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My son was never a biter. But did try sometimes to view me or daddy. We did exactly what Dove said. He bit us we bit him back (softly) but still were it hurt. And always said "Did it hurt? It hurts Mommy too when Ethyn bites mommy". he did it a few more times and so did I... he didn't bite anyone after that. They just have to feel what others are feeling when they do it

Dove - posted on 02/27/2013

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Keep on telling her no and you can also put her in time out for a minute.... or just walk away and ignore her for a few minutes. Do it right away, every time she bites. For 'most' kids this is a short lived phase that will go away with a little bit of time and a lot of consistency. She is most likely just looking for a reaction and as hard as it is... you have to not give her one.

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Dove - posted on 02/28/2013

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Two people that advised biting their kid said I was right in my first post..... which had nothing to do with biting your kid, so I just wanted it 'on record' that I am completely against biting your child. ;)

Dove - posted on 02/28/2013

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My kids never bit me, but they would bite each other... AND themselves... so bad that they would have bite marks up and down their arms for weeks at a time. They knew how it felt... it didn't stop them. Don't bite your kid. Please. It may 'work' for some kids, but really? An adult resorting to biting a toddler really doesn't make much sense.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/28/2013

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Dove and Kelly are both right. She can't feel what the other child feels and the most effective way to stop rough behavior is for them to feel it themselves. I knew a mom whose child was on such a biting spree at daycare, and as a last resort, she bit her own child. It wasn't easy for her, but it was successful and the behavior stopped. You may feel appalled at that option, and if your daughter is not in daycare biting innocent children, then you can just wait it out. With a developing vocabulary and communication skills they eventually grow out of it. Good luck!

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