Katija2013 - posted on 08/28/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have 19 mth old (corrected) b/g twins, who were 5 weeks premmie. The elder (G) is very dominant, the younger (B) passive and sweet. My question is, is it normal for twins to have very differing personalities and socialisation skills? It may seem like a silly question, but these are my first children, and i haven't had any experience of children prior to giving birth.; and i was an only child. Do i hold them to the milestone checklists for language and social development that you find on baby websites for singleton babies? My son has only recently started pointing at things. Whenever i compare him to the singleton milestones i get afraid that he is autistic, as his sister is so social. He has no outward signs of autism (eg. repetitive behaviours, tantrums for no reasons etc), he just doesnt point much (he brings me books to show me, he understands EVERYTHING i say, he helps clear up dishes, has eye contact, can say 4 words) just seems very shy. Does a lack of a lot of finger pointing, and preferring to play on his own quite a bit, mean he's autistic? We dont have any family around, so their social network is non existent. Ive only recently managed to get them into day care part time for more socialisation, and the staff have advised they havent noticed anything concerning about my son's behaviour. That he's coming out of his shell more. Is it normal for twins to sometimes be social, and other days not be? To sometimes look you in the eyes, and sometimes not. To sometimes not do what you ask? Because im scared that because he is quieter than his sister, there may be something wrong...