18 pregnant and and I'm scared I'll resent my baby please help

Chloe - posted on 06/26/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I was with my abusive ex 3 years and I never got pregnant no matter how many times he tried to talk me into having a child. I'm with my new boyfriend of only 3 months who is an absolute angel compared to my ex and we recently discovered that I'm pregnant, we always used protection so the condom must have spilt it wasn't planned, I have just finished my a levels and have accepted into another course in tech which will get me a place in university to study social work. Can I still do all these things with my life? Go on to further education get the grades and qualifications? Can I still travel the world and see exciting new places, I know I cant I know I will have to completely change my life and all my plans and hopes for the future will be thrown out the window and I'm terrified that I will resent the baby for this, I havent even told anyone yet about this pregnancy and I don't have anyone to talk to, I'm so scared and I don't know what to do, how can I look after a child when I'm still a child myself, don't get me wrong I love kids I helped my sister bring up my beautiful niece but I just feel like running away but I know it won't help, please can someone give me advice. I'm just not ready

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Dove - posted on 06/26/2015

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You are only 18 and you were w/ an abusive ex for 3 years and now you've only been w/ this new guy for 3 months and you are pregnant? I know that's not the part you are talking about, but... where have your parents been while you were being abused for 3 years? Have you sought counseling for the abuse?

I am NOT trying to hurt you or make you feel bad or anything like that, but I'm worried about you and this entire situation... Definitely seek some crisis pregnancy intervention like the other ladies have mentioned, but whether or not you keep this baby PLEASE seek additional counseling and consider cooling down your relationship w/ this new guy until you have worked through the past abuse.

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Chloe - posted on 06/26/2015

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It was my counsellor who helped me leave him, my parents had spilt up and I don't have contact with my dad, and I just never told my mum. I will thank you

Chloe - posted on 06/26/2015

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I will look into the couselling thank you, I've made an appointment with the doctor and I'll talk to him about it

Raye - posted on 06/26/2015

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You can still do a lot of what you want, even with a child in tow, it will just take more effort, time, money, help, planning, prioritizing, and such. But if you don't want to keep the child, there are options such as putting it up for adoption, etc. What does your BF think about it?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/26/2015

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Definitely seek out a crisis pregnancy center for counseling. Having a baby doesn't necessarily mean that you give up your life dreams, just that you may have to postpone them for a bit, or work harder towards them.
However, if you don't feel you are ready, please check into your options. There are several. I'm not an advocate for abortion, but I also realize that I'm not every woman, and in most places that is an option. I would, however, recommend that you look into ALL of your options, to find out what is best for you and this baby.
Hang in there, take care of yourself, and just start checking things out. I'm certain you'll find the best solution for you, and the baby!

Sarah - posted on 06/26/2015

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Maybe look into doing some crisis pregnancy counseling. Maybe you need to look at adoption. Get connected with a pregnancy counselor and look figure out what is best for you and baby.

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