18 year old daughter dating sex offender


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Sherri - posted on 01/12/2014




Sorry, I typed the this question out and I don't know where it went so I will type it again. When our daughter was in 8th grade she had this science teacher that took to her. Long story short we ended up putting him in jail on a 4th degree sexual offense. No sex, just touching. He was in jail for a year. She always had a thing for him even back then. And I always thought my worst nightmare would be that they hooked back up when she turned 18. Well when she turned 18 she contacted him. So for almost a year now they have been sneaking around, he is giving her money and turning her into someone that she isn't. In her mind he never did anything wrong to her and we shouldn't have sent him to jail. I know that she is 18 and we can't stop her from seeing him. She has never brought him around here and I am sure she won't. I read in a former post that is similar in ways to mine that we should just not talk about him or degrade him because that will basically push her towards him and away from us. Is there any other advice out there on how we should handle this situation? Oh, and the one thing that makes it even worse is the age difference. This year she will be 19 and he will be 40. So when she was in 8th grade she was 13 and he was 34. What 34 year old man falls in love with a 13 year old? And she just tells me they are "soul mates". Help!!

Amy - posted on 01/11/2014




I agree it could just be he was over the age of 18 and had sex with someone who wasn't all that much younger than him.

Jodi - posted on 01/11/2014




Firstly, she's an adult. Secondly, do you know what the sex offence was? After all, that could range from rape of a 2 year old, to an 18 year old boy having consensual sex with a 16 year old minor. You shouldn't judge this person until you know the details.

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