18 year old daughter help

Yvette - posted on 06/04/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




after 20 year marriage over, due to husbands infidelity and verbal abuse and financial ruin, my 18 year old daughter goes with him and moves in with him and his girlfriend. Not only feel betrayed by him,,, but her as well, I spent 16 years doing everything for her including homeschooling…she doesn't seem to get my point of view at all...


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/04/2015




Um...she's 18, an adult, and can live where she pleases. Its not up to her to 'get your point of view', because she does not have the same level of relationship with her father as you did: A marriage. She is his daughter, just as she is yours, and if she, as an adult, is more comfortable in her father's home...well, I'm sorry but there is really nothing you can do.
How much time did you spend with her complaining about her father and the state of your affairs with him? Perhaps (if you did do anything like that), that is why she's chosen to move out.
One question: Would you have felt 'betrayed' if she'd moved in with one of her friends? It could be that you are simply upset that she's growing up. If that's the case, I'd recommend finding a hobby. When my eldest moved out, it was a change, had to fill some time and space that he'd normally occupied

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