Karie - posted on 10/26/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
My daughter has been excited to start college at her choice school. Now 1.5 months into the school year her 17 year old boyfriend (who has signed up for the military) wants her to leave her school and move in with him after basic training - next November (2016 - no one knows where he will be stationed yet).
My daughter is very compassionate and accommodating - she has always struggled with saying the word 'no'. I feel she is in a situation where she cannot tell him 'no' or try to compromise on a solution. She told me that it is OK, she can change her plans and school, etc. But I don't think she should have too.
I had done the same thing she is doing - I gave up my everything for my boyfriend at the time (her father). And all I see is regret coming her way.
I know she is 18 and it is really up to her - but I feel utterly let down, that she will not try to compromise with him and wait till she graduates to move in (which will be anywhere in the US). I fear she will not complete college and when/if they split up she will have nothing to fall back on.
I know I just have to be their to pick up any pieces - but it is a terrible feeling watching your child go down the same path you did (and no way to stop it).