18 year old staying up all night

Pamela - posted on 08/08/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Ok to be honest I am Grandma/ Mom and have had LaLa on and off for years. Last year she was having such a bad time at home she decided to move in with us. To get her through her Sr year it was best for her. Now the problem is we took in her best friend that is a little older than her and was a Sr also. She works really close to our house so we thought it would be a good move for her. She was being bounced around between her parents and needed to finish school. After many weeks of pulling my hair out with her staying out all night and finding out she thinks she has insomnia I am at wits end! I really think she needs to reset her internal clock. She will work till 12 or 1 in the morning and want to stay up the rest of the night then sleep all day. Thank God my LaLa isn't this bad! Just don't know how else to help her girl friend Brook. Help Grandma please

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Jodi - posted on 08/08/2016

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They all think they are grown up at this age. If your granddaughter moves out, she moves out. She will find a way to land on her feet, and if she doesn't, she will have learned one of life's lessons. Sometimes they need to experience hardship in order to truly appreciate what they had.

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Pamela - posted on 08/08/2016

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Thank you to everyone that has replied to my post. It is really hard when your heart gets in the way. I worry about my granddaughter wanting to move out too. She is really not ready! We will see. They think they are so grown up. Next week we will be married 47 years. There is a lot to learn in this messed up world!

Michelle - posted on 08/08/2016

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I agree with Dove.
You have no obligations to this girl. If she wants to continue living in your house she has to live by your rules.
If she takes the truck again, report it stolen. Tell her you will do that the next time she takes it though so she know what the consequences will be.
You have opened up your home to her and she isn't respecting you at all. Time she acted like an adult.

Dove - posted on 08/08/2016

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You are absolutely under no obligation to continue to house her. She is 18, graduated, and working. If you do want to continue to allow her to live in your home... write up a contract of her responsibilities (rent, cleaning up her own messes, whatever). She either signs it and complies... or moves out.

Yes, it IS ok. :) ♥

In fact... if you have asked her not to use the truck and she has anyway... I would let her know that the next time she does that you will call the police and report it stolen. I'm a real hard butt though... lol

Pamela - posted on 08/08/2016

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Yes she has a job. Yes she graduated from high school, She is not paying rent and is up all night after work. till 4:30 in the morning she gets of between 12 and 1. That is just it staying up all night is a problem cooking and leaving her mess is a problem. Not knowing she didn't have respect for others. We let her use the truck we bought for our granddaughter. She stays out all night with it. I ask her not to use it and she has anyway. What is madding is she is smart and needed to be in college the fall.
Brook didn't attend school the last of her sr year hardly at all. Don't know how she graduated. I guess it is time for me to be a hard butt and try harder to get her straight. I guess I am looking for someone to tell me it is ok.

Dove - posted on 08/08/2016

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Has she graduated from high school now? If so... does she have a job? As long as she is working and paying rent her sleep habits should be up to her. If she is not working and/or not paying rent... it's time to give her a time limit to get her butt in gear or move out.

If the girls are still in high school this year... attending school daily is mandatory and if her sleep habits are keeping her from attending classes she will either need to change that or find a new place to live.

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