Cindy - posted on 07/28/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
Help please! She went to 1 yr at WIT, did okay, came home for the summer, works landscaping, but decided to move out, to live from friends apt to friends apt and is smoking marijuana, and drinking everynight. She wants to live on her own and just have fun. No school, just party. After 1 wk she was arrested for drug possession. We told her we would bring her to court as she has no car. Picked her up at 730am and she couldn't even walk a straight line, she was so high and smelled of alcohol. She got to court and they gave her PTI. I tried to talk to her again about living home and going to a school, any school, and she refuses and says she is fine and at 18 she just wants to be a kid and have fun, not decide what career to start at 19 and work for the rest of her life. I tried to step back for the past 3 weeks, but I want her to know we love her and there is a home here for her. She continues to be rebellious and insists she is doing fine living on her own. What are we to do? Just sit back and watch her self destruct? Get addicted? We feel helpless. If she was not in that state for court date, perhaps we would believe she can do it on her own...but how do you help or offer help or love so that the right decisions will be made?