18 yr old quit college, moved out and in with Boyfriend!!!

Lynda - posted on 12/29/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )




So my 18 yr old daughter just quits going to college, came home drunk (her bf drove her home) she left her car (owned by us) at her boyfriends house. She had been coming home way past her 12:30 am curfew and we took the car away one time. When she came home drunk at 1:30 am, I advised her that the car would need to stay parked, she asked how she would get to her PT job, I told her she would have to figure that out. So she packed a small duffle bag with her clothes and she moved in with her boyfriend. She's been gone for 2 weeks now, I have talked with her about how she can come home anytime and offered to get her an apartment on her own. She refuses. After two weeks she comes for Christmas,( I went and picked her up) then she asks to drive the car to work and says she will bring it back on Sunday and stay for dinner. On Sunday she comes for dinner with her boyfriend in her boyfriends car, she left hers (ours) at his house. We have a nice dinner and I tell her when she gets of work she needs to come home so we can discuss the car issue. We bought the car, along with a laptop and books for her to go to college. We said she only had to pay back half of the car whenever she could as long as she was in school. Well she quit now, and has paid about $600 towards the car. We hold the insurance and the title on the car. We need to come to some sort of agreement if she wants the car, however when we took it away from her (for underage drinking) she just moved out! Anyone have any helpful suggestions?


Dove - posted on 12/29/2014




Yep... agree w/ the others. Take back anything you own and let her figure out her own life.

You could either give back the $600 that she paid for the car or consider that she paid it to 'rent' the car and laptop for the time that she used it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/29/2014




Go get the car yourselves, and make sure you hide the keys. Get your laptop, and anything else that is your. If this is the life she wants, then she can do what she needs to do to earn her own money and pay for her own stuff.

Ev - posted on 12/29/2014




I agree with the other ladies. She is 18 and an adult. If this is what she wants then let her have it.

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2014




Giver her back the $600 and sell the car. Then let her know she is on her own. She has clearly made her choice that she wants to be independent. Let her live with that choice.

Christina - posted on 12/29/2014




You no you should let her learn her lesson. She needs to realize that all you guys want is the best for her but if she left your house and stop going to school take the car back show her the value of life . She will see how hard it will be when you show her tuff love..


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