19 and pregnant with my second child an i cry just about all the time.

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/09/2012 ( 26 moms have responded )

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19 and pregnant with my second child an i cry just about all the time.

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Woods_natasha - posted on 10/11/2012

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Shemekia, having two kids is hectic, mine are two years apart. But no worries, honestly, each day gets easier. My family are in another country, so the external support is limited. I read some of the other posts, and they are all very helpful! Talk to someone Hun! Due to your age you may be eligible for assistance in child care and/or financial while your obtaining a higher education.



You can do it! I am learning that getting outside helps not only me, but the kids. Go for nice walks, the little one loves it, it keeps the older one busy (great for naps), and the younger one sleeps better with fresh air. Find a park. Let your toddler run wild! Talk to a counsellor, your doctor, or if you are involved in a group or church talk to them. You will realize that your not alone. Set a schedule as best as you can, when the kids are down give yourself time, just to relax or reflect, read something inspirational to uplift your spirits. Set goals for yourself. My mom had my sister and I at 18. She has provided a great life for us and my 3 younger siblings as well. She lived independently for a long time. But God provides! She planned her future better after she had us and pushed through life.



One thing I am learning is that how we respond to life makes a serious impact on how we live it. Try to stay positive, and remember that everyday is another chance to do it better!

Melissa - posted on 10/11/2012

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Many times poor diet and lack of exercise can affect stress and anxiety. Are you taking care of yourself physically? One quick fix~eat more protein, eat less carbs and eat every 3-4 hours. This means you need to eat about 6 small meals a day. Cheese/crackers, lean chicken, beef, etc. with veggies, fruit and yogurt. Stay away from too many carbs and stick to the protein. This will help keep your blood sugar stable and help with mood swings. Also, take a brisk walk once a day.



If you do not feel you can support another child consider adoption placement. By all means get help and education about planning anymore pregnancies you may want to have. With all the free clinics, services and care there should not be any unwanted pregnancies this day and age. By all means go back to school. You need to be an example for your daughter. You don't want her to end up pregnant and uneducated too. You can be anything you want. It won't be easier because of your circumstances. But it is possible to overcome and be successful. Do you go to church? Do you have a church family that can be a support to you? Talk to your friends, family and church family. Many people will give you support. I'll pray you are in God's hands and in His care.

Ariana - posted on 10/10/2012

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If you're in physical pain you should talk to your doctor to help you out.



Having two kids is a lot of work but it is still manageable. Everyone goes through an adjustment and then works it out. Change is scary but you will get through it.



If you are upset about your lack of education/job go get your GED. It's not an easy endevour but it's not impossible either. Make goals for yourself.



This could be hormones to, they mess with you a lot. Try to stay positive and if you're having real trouble find a councellor you can talk to. They can help you with some coping mechanisms and maybe help you make goals for yourself so that maybe you can get your GED or a job you enjoy, or whatever it is you want for yourself.



Good luck

CHERYL - posted on 10/11/2012

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have faith,go to church,reach out to those who are willing to help you. Get your education to support yourself and your children. Go it alone if you must. Never allow men to come and go as child abuse is very real.get to a school counselor and find what interests you . You can overcome great strides in life, The past is the past move forward. Life is fragil and very short. I had 2 babies by the time I was 19 and cried to but I KEPT MY HEAD HIGH AND NEVER QUIT.!WE NOW HVE 8 FABULOUS GRANDCHILDREN FROM ALL OUR PAIN,SACRIFICES AND LOVE. bELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOU WILL HAVE A FUFILLED LIFE.

Sarah - posted on 10/11/2012

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If you are in physical pain, you need to go to the dr. If you are in emotional pain, please talk to someone and let them know what you are going through. It's never an easy transition from not being a parent to being one, from having one child to two, and so on. You can get through this!! There is help to be found out there! You've started reaching out to find it, you might just need to reach a tiny bit more to someone who can see you in person!!



Also, I strongly agree with everyone who has suggested you try and work on getting your diploma or GED. There are lots of online school options where you might be able to finish high school and be ready for college!! :D And, college is an amazing place for a young lady, especially a young mom! I was 19 when I was in college and had a baby. Going to college gave me a chance to have a little bit of the "normal" life other people my age were having. It also gave me a little time away from the baby, which was also a welcome relief at such a young age.



I know it's hard to believe right now but your life is not over, you have a lot of living left to do. In the beginning it will feel very much like it is over, because so much of your life will revolve around the little ones. But, as time passes, there will be more and more time for you to follow your dreams! And, it is only good for your children to see you following your dreams!!

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Courtney - posted on 10/13/2012

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If you're from the brooklyn area...and need anything for your daughter (or upcoming child)... I have a few things that could be of use.

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/13/2012

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yes they said it can come from pick up stuff thats over 20lbs an mi 1yr old she is 31lb

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/13/2012

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2 the ppl that was 19/20 an having a second child what kinda pain did yal have?





did yal have arm pain sometimes????

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/13/2012

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wanda what kinda pain did u have> an i inboxed you





did u have arm pain sum times

Wanda - posted on 10/12/2012

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I'm 18 and have two kids, I got pregnant with my second when I was 17 so i kinda know what your going through... I was severely depressed and in a lot of pain with the second pregnancy. And my kids are 14 months apart.. You can do it, and don't feel to badly about living with your mom, parents are here to help right? If you ever want to talk, msg me :)

Bethany - posted on 10/12/2012

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I was 20 when I had my second daughter. My oldest was only 17 months at the time. I was married but my husband left when my youngest was 2 months old. I lived with my parents, got my GED, moved halfway across the country to live with my brotger because my parents were moving, and found a job as a waitress. When I didn't make enough doing that I found a different waitressing job. When that wasn't enough I found a job at a daycare where I only had to pay half price for my kids to go there too. When that daycare closed down due to a financial shortage I was able to find a job at anoyher daycare an hour away where my kids go for free! A couple months later I rented a house for just me and my girls! They are 4 and 2 1/2 now and yes its hard!! But YOU CAN DO IT! Just don't give up - its not an option when you have little ones counting on you. Keep your chin up and did whatever it takes. Believe in yourself and you can make it! I haven't made it back to college yet but hopefully that will be the next step for me. Good luck to you!

Francine - posted on 10/12/2012

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Like some ladies have said you are not giving a lot of information on why you feel this way. Are you going through Post Partum Depression after having your 1st baby? Do you have any kind of support system? Is the babies' father still in the picture? Is there a reason you decided to get pregnant again at a very young age or is this pregnancy accidental? The only person you should be talking to about these things if you can't give us any explanation is your doctor.

Sarah - posted on 10/12/2012

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Why are you crying, because you are overwhelmed? Just plain depressed? Having a hard time taking care of the first one? You don't give much information, such as whether you have a partner. It doesn't sound from it as though you have much support. I would think that it is hard to be a mother of one, let alone two, at your age and you need a lot of support to do that. What are your means of support (I mean financial, emotional, practical) right now and is there any way to get more? After you have this child, I would look into the various types of birth control there are and decide which is best for you and use it consistently, for your and your children's sakes.

Gabrielle - posted on 10/12/2012

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Definitwly talk to ur doc....i myself, am struggling with prenatal depression and its awful but u can get thru it. Depression sucks and hurts mentally AND physically...i highly suggest talking with ur ob about what ur feeling and the struggles that r facing u.

Danielle - posted on 10/11/2012

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I can say I know exactly what ur feeling but I have a good idea I was 17 when I had my son and 19 when I had my daughter and man was it hard emotions got the best of me and anything anyone would say or do to me would just set me off and there was no way to fix it other than let it run its course. The most I cab say is find someone to talk to who has no judgement in the situation that helps other than that keep ur head up and allow yourself to get away from stress or whatever else makes u upset.

Tracey - posted on 10/11/2012

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You know what it's ok, the baby is on it's way, somtimes life is a hard lesson, do can do it, I had my first baby at age 15, and I hhad no one to turn to and no help. God will help ou get through this but you must give your life to him, he'll help you. will you parents help you or family?

Sarah - posted on 10/11/2012

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Sorry to hear youa re feeling this way, could you ask for help through dr office

Terilee - posted on 10/11/2012

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I had 2 very young ones when I was 21, very close to your age. I'm now 29, so am at the other side of what you're going through now. What a blessing the 2nd one was! They were able to keep each other occupied, and they always had a playmate! There is 10 and a half months between them... believe me, I understand! I now have another wee bubs, and yes, they keep you on your toes, but there is still heaps and heaps of time to be your own person, and make time for the things you love to do! It's important to keep up activities that make you happy as a person, and revitilise yourself, so that you can do a better job as a Mum =) lots of love!

Cheralyn - posted on 10/11/2012

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Education is a key that can unlock doors for you. I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first child who is now 17. I now have 3 more children who are 4,2 and 8 months. I lived with my parents while I finished college and until I was 27 and able to buy a house. When I got pregnant I was already in college for 2 years and because of my support system, I was able to finish. Getting your GED then starting college could ease the burden if you commit to it. There are many resources you can take advantage of that will help you with your education. Including childcare, grants and access to student loans that will help with your living expenses while you attend school full time. Thankfully you have your mom to help you as well. Embrace that. Good luck. The transition to 2 children is tough but eventually you find a groove and things run smoothly.

Robyn - posted on 10/11/2012

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I had twins and know how scared I was at the thought of two little ones at the same time. I felt like I spent two weeks in shock at the thought. I'd only planned on one. You are very young and needing/wanting to get the GED and a job will make it harder for you but in some ways the two kids will soon be a blessing. The first year or two with two so close in age is hard but soon after that they start to play together and that can actually make it easier then having just one kid. I noticed after a while it was the parents of one that had to do a lot of work entertaining their children and making sure they had "playdates" etc. ... having two they played together starting at about 2 years old. With one a bit older than the other she might be helping you out by entertaining - not caring for but playing with - the baby sooner than you think.

Brenda - posted on 10/11/2012

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its true your young for such responsibilities but the secret is to live one day at a time. Have a life dear. The same God who has blessed you with a fertile womb will take care of His childeren. celebrate the growth of your childen, enjoy their smiles eachday.



am wondering, how old is your first child and what keeps you crying dear? Is the father of your children playing his daddy roles? Remember not to affect the unborn with stress. God bless

Ariana - posted on 10/10/2012

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Well I have one biological child and another child who I take care of for complicated reasons so technically yes, I do. It's a juggling act for sure, and a lot of it is dealing with the relationship between the kids.



Kids are a lot of work but the payoff is great. They're so sweet and loving.



If you're having difficulties maybe there are some programs you can go to for support?

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/10/2012

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ITS THE PAIN WHAT I DONT LIKE AN SEEM LIKE 2 KIDS WILL BE TO MUCH FOR ME> I HAVE NO JOB OF GED AN I AM STILL LIVING WITH MY MOM> MY DAUGHTER IS 1 AN I WASNT LIKE DIS WITH MY FIRST PREGNANCY.

Ariana - posted on 10/10/2012

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What's up? What's going on?



Life can be tough. Remember there are people who are there for you and who can support you. Whatever is going on you can get support in a variety of ways.



Whatever is going on I hope you're all right.

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