19 year old son with Aspergers

Cherie - posted on 11/19/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hello Moms I need help. My son is 19 and has had aspergers since he was 6. He behavior has been consistent and got better about 2 years ago. He graduated from high school and was very happy untill about 1 year ago. He cannot secure a job and cannot hold onto any friends. He is flustrated and bored and will not help himself. His self-esteen is dropping quickly and he is now hearing voices and on some very heavy physciatric medications. To make things worse my husband cannot deal with his disrespecfull and rude behavior and he handles it by punching him and hitting him when he is flustrated and angry. I do not know what to do because it hurts me badly to see this happen. I cannot work full-time because I need to be home to monitor both my children and I cannot support myself if I leave my husband. My husband is barely able to financially take care of us anymore and now he emotional state is out of control. My youngest son is hurting from all of this as well. I do not want to lose my youngest son to CPS. Is it illegal for my husband to hit my 19year old son? Where can I get help or find an attorney who will work with my financially on getting a divorce or directing me towards a safe living environment? We cannot qualify for disability because aspergers is not a valid diagnosis.

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Christina - posted on 11/19/2012

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I probably am not the best on giving advice, but wanted to let you know you have been heard. It is jot right that your husband punches your son. Aspergers or not. I am sure that is not helping your son in any way. You need to get your children out of that situation. I would call a few lawyers to see how they can help you. Here in Utah we have state programs that assist with people with disabilities, including aspergers. One is DSPD (division of service for people with disabilities) and voc rehab. They are great programs. Maybe you have something similar where you live? Do you have family close that might be able/willing to help you while you gat things situated to step out on your own and give your kids the best environment you can provide? I hope things get better for you and your kids. I truly do.

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