19 yrs old. an i never thought my second pregancy would be so tough!

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/20/2012 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I am 25 weeks pregnant with my second child and my first pregnancy was a great! I basically felt very normal. With this pregnancy, I have been paining alot. I get short of breath and it feels like it may be a little early for me to be experiencing things like being short of breath. an i baby stay on my right side, an i have pain n my lower leg sometimes. I weight 232 havnt really gain any weight, I am still very young (19) so I have no clue why my first pregnancy was so easy and this one is so hard. I hate feeling so bad all the time cuz of the pain i have an sum time cry. an i dont get alot of sleep with this pregnancy.

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Jodi - posted on 10/20/2012

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Perhaps not EVERY day, but you have started 37 conversations about this pregnancy, from worries about you dying, your baby dying, the pain you are in not being normal, I could go on. It isn't healthy for you to be suffering such a high level of fear and anxiety, you need professional help. As I have said, get off the computer and go and talk to your doctor about it.

Dove - posted on 10/20/2012

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37? Wow... Seeing your OB for your pain and getting a referral to a counselor for your stress and worry would probably be much more helpful.

Christine - posted on 10/21/2012

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This is the first time im seeing this post and i have to say that you are 232 lbs with 15 weeks to go. Ur weight is definitely a big issue with this pregnancy. The more weight this baby puts on u, the more pressure it is going to put on your chest hence not breathing very well. You retain a lot of water when ur pregnant so hence.. swollen ankles. Go to the doctor!! Sorry but common sense. people need to stop sidestepping the issue.

Stephanie - posted on 10/21/2012

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If only one ankle is swollen you need to go to the dr, uneven swelling can be a sign of something more serious... I swelled up a lot during both my pregnancies but as long as it was fairly even to both legs it was ok. Go see your dr ASAP. Being overweight can add to complications as well, I started out overweight with both my pregnancies and then gained almost 50 pounds... Not exactly recommended, but my dr monitored me closely.

Kathryn - posted on 10/21/2012

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Every pregnancy is different, but certainly a doctor needs to hear your symptoms and help you problem solve. Together with your doctor you should be able to select some alternatives to help you get through the next 15 weeks.

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Amanda - posted on 10/22/2012

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1st of all shannon, no! She should not get her damn tubes tied! I am 21 I have a 22 year old and a 3 year old my son when i was 17 turning 18 a month later my daughter when i was 18 turning 19 in that same month. Anyways I am married and CAN support my chidren financially AND they go to school, cause they are that smart. Don't be so quick to judge. And shameka, every pregnancy is different, my first was hell because i had the flu, and actually i weighed 250 when i got pregnant with him, and lost 30lbsthat during the pregnancy because i was sick, and gained it all backwith my daughter i got pregnant withher 3 months after my son was born, anyways go to a doc :)

Shannon - posted on 10/22/2012

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Every pregnancy is unique and you've put your body in the stressful position of having 2 babies in a short period of time...its gonna react differently than your first pregnancy.



Now the REAL issue that I know I'll probably take a pummeling for, but I dont care because I'm right...enough babies for awhile! Get your tubes tied in the next delivery! I dont know a single 19 year old with the emotional or financial stability to take care of one, let alone TWO kids...you're still a kid yourself. Getting your tubes tied is reversable so if at a later date (when you're old enough to support and raise kids responsibly) you decide you WANT more, you can do it.



Sorry to be so bold and blunt, I wish this pregnancy all the best, but please no more babies until your mature enough (Financially and emotionally!!! For the kids' sake....)

Amber - posted on 10/21/2012

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My pregnancies both had me short of breath from almost day one. Its a big bummer!!

Wanda - posted on 10/21/2012

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Shemekia looks like someone else said it, every pregnancy is different. I had three girls no problem. My son was hell from the beginning to the end. Talk to your doctor about you discomfort and see if there are some suggestions he/she can give you to relieve some of the symptoms.

Denika - posted on 10/21/2012

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Sweet heart listen, every pregnancy is completely different. No baby or child will ever be alike. My 1st was good also . My second was horrible. I stayed sick all the time. Being over 200 pounds pregnant is normal. Some of your weight is the baby. Don't listen to all these people that think they know how you feel or the stupid ones who wants to critisize you. Try to keep off your feet as much as possible . To much walking or moving around may not be good for you right now since your in so much pain. And as far as sleep at night , lay on your side with a big fluffy pillow between your legs and a pillow under your belly. That might give you a lil more comfort. Stay strong sweet heart and I hope you feel better soon.

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/21/2012

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thanx denika an jennifer did one of your ankles get swole? my right ankle is swole an i do see a ob doctor! an i am totally confused bout this one.

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2012

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i was the same, the 2nd pregnancy was horrible i hated it, my 1st was a girl an i was fine 2nd 1 was a boy i had to gt a inhaler off my doctor cos i cudnt get my breathe walkin to work, i had to finish work 4monthd b4 i was due but wit my 1st i worked right to the end. my 2nd 1 i had pains in my legs my lower bak all the time kept goin dizzy wud jus fall asleep randomly it was crazy

Kathleen - posted on 10/21/2012

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Sweetie - so young to have a second baby already. I hope you are talking to a doctor about all this and are having regular checkups with monitoring of your blood pressure. I am just guessing, but did you start this pregnancy at a heavier weight than the last? Plus, you already have a small child to take care of - that's a great deal more work and less rest!

Please consult your doctor and see them regularly. Remember, each pregnancy is a unique pregnancy and can be very different than prior ones. You must take good care of yourself for both you children's sake and your own. Best of luck and peace

(my specialty is caring for preemie and sick newborns and the moms that give birth to them so pls pls take the healthcare advice my dear and be well)

Deena - posted on 10/21/2012

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Shemekia, you probably should see a doctor. If you can't afford one there is a baby your baby program that can help. And they can help you get on Medicaid if you qualify.

Jazmyne - posted on 10/21/2012

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do you have insurance? If you don't Im sure the state or county should be able to help you out. The other ladies are right you should see a doctor. I had the same issues as you, with the pain and the anxiety in my third pregnancy. But most of my worries were dismissed by my obgyn. Go to your doctor only he/she can tell you if what your feeling is normal for you.

Dove - posted on 10/20/2012

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lol is right. Jodi LINKED us to the one you posted yesterday and I know that wasn't the first... not even close.

Amy - posted on 10/20/2012

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LOL Shemekia you are posting a new question every single day! Well let me rephrase it's the same questions asked differently every single day!

Dove - posted on 10/20/2012

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I was wondering how long it would take you to find this post, Jodi. ;)



Shemekia, GO to your doctor and quit starting a new post about the same thing every single day. If you want to continue to whine/vent on a daily basis about the exact same thing.... fine, but why not bump up one of your existing posts instead of continuously starting a new one?

Anaquita - posted on 10/20/2012

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Ah, yeah next time, try birth control after. Not because you're young, but to give yourself time to heal before a third. Most doctors recommend at *least* a year in between, two would be more ideal. It gives your body a break, time for everything to heal, and time to replace all the nutritional stores in your body that a baby draws off of.



I still say talk to your ob/gyn about the pain.

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/20/2012

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yes they r close together. an i got pregnant when my baby bout 10mths.

Anaquita - posted on 10/20/2012

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Each pregnancy is different. Also, word of warning, the second baby tends to be larger than the first, and you will expand faster as well. Are the pregnancies close together? You might not have been fully healed from the first one.



If the pain is bad enough to make you cry, I would bring it up to your ob/gyn to be on the safe side.

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