Amber - posted on 02/29/2016 ( 22 moms have responded )
My 3 step children (2 girls 9 & 11, 1 boy 7) and my husband's ex still reside in the small 2 bedroom trailer she had when they divorced in 2010. Only 6 months ago did she separate the 3 kids. She now sleeps in the living room. We just learned that she is pregnant by her latest boyfriend (whom she took our kids along for the very first meeting) and intending to add another body to a house we feel our kids outgrew years ago. Additionally, the place is disgusting due to all of the animals she's had over the years and the lack of cleanliness. Its bad enough that her boyfriend won't allow his child there and won't stay the night himself. For 5 years we've felt that, without an expensive attorney, there is nothing we could do to get our kids out of the squalor there. Now that another body is being added to the situation, we want to know if there are any laws that would allow us to force her to improve our kids' living situation. We have a nearly split custody situation but she is still listed as the custodial parent. We believe the children need both of their parents equally but they shouldn't spend the majority of their time in that environment. We want to force her to take parenting classes, get a place with more bedrooms, and stop introducing the kids to every man she sleeps with, before we go back to them spending half of their time at her home. We are not trying to take the kids from her, just force her to become a better mother. Until she starts making wiser decisions for our kids, we want her time with them limited.