2 month old is overtired and won't sleep

Jessica - posted on 10/10/2013 ( 91 moms have responded )

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Does anyone have any suggestions? My dd is almost 9 weeks old and has only had two short naps today (30 min and 45 min). She's overtired and won't stop screaming. I've tried her swing, a car ride, bouncy chair, rocking, bouncing, music, white noise, nursing, paci, swaddling and gripe water. We're both in tears. help?

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Nancy - posted on 10/15/2013

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I know I might get some grief over my answer, but it works. I raised 3 sons and used this with them and now I use this to get my grandsons to nap. One warning: If you absolutely cannot take a nap along with your child, don't do this. A vast majority of time you will fall asleep along with your little one. Lay down with your baby and snuggle him/her close to you; close contact helps with the second step of this. If you are nursing, offer the breast. Just make sure that the baby's head is positioned so that the ears are close to your heart. (First step) Next concentrate on your own breathing; take slow deep ABDOMINAL breathes. Breathe in on a slow count of 5 and exhale on the same slow count of 5. (Second step) Abdominal breathing lowers the brain waves and allows sleep. The baby will automatically mimic your breathing and fall asleep.

Courtney - posted on 11/04/2013

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Possible your baby has GERD or a milk allergy? I suffered throught six months of a baby who would only sleep in a swing (upright) or in my arms and he also threw up several times per day. I was about to go postal. You're not alone. I did all you mentioned above, too. Poor little baby was so uncomfortable. Try asking your pediatrician and mention EVERYTHING. Don't leave your peds office without an answer, if you can't fix it on your own. We finally got a medicine for him that saved our lives and he only needed it for maybe six months. Best wishes!!!!

Leone - posted on 10/22/2013

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Please have your child checked for reflux and/or allergies. You may find that there is something you are ingesting that is transferring to your breast milk that is upsetting their system. It could be as simple as not ingesting dairy products or gluten while breastfeeding. if you are not breastfeeding please try a non dairy formula. If the issue is reflux, elevate the top of the bassinet or cot by placing a brick under each leg at the head which will raise the end where the baby's head is, this keeps the stomach acid down rather than laying the baby flat and having the reflux burning the throat. God Bless

Margaret - posted on 11/04/2013

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Try giving her a warm bath and make sure her tummy is full. Then wrap her up snugly in a blanket and rock her to sleep. She may fuss a little initially, but if she's warm, dry and has a full tummy, she should settle down and go to sleep. Be sure it's just overtired and not colic--that's another whole thing to deal with. Big precaution--be sure you are not upset because she will pick up on that and it will make her even more fussy. Good luck , sweetie! :)

Fatima - posted on 11/04/2013

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Three most common problems with what you mentioned about your baby
1. Colic ( baby rooibos tea ) the best
2.formula ( does not agree with your baby )
3.lactose intolerant
I would suggest you take your baby to a good physician or you can try the BABY ROOIBOS TEA for a few days if that does not work then the
Physician is your best option.
Good luck (pls read instructions for quantity of baby rooibos tea the rest of the teabag can be put in the fridge untill it gets too weak )

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Carolyn - posted on 10/23/2015

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I rocked a lot with my son. I also got a lot of practice with slow dancing

Marie - posted on 01/31/2014

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Sounds just like one of the many vaccine reactions. If she has had a vaccine recently, she may be extra sensitive.

Jen - posted on 01/15/2014

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PRAY over her!!!! Just say In The Name Of Jesus go to sleep.

Jen - posted on 01/14/2014

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She can feel you are upset and fustrated. Put her in her crib let her cry herself to sleep. For you make ur favorite drink hot or cold. Take it to a room u can here DD, but don't go runnin everytime she cries, screaming herself to sleep is good it helps her lungs develop. So now make that drink, grab ur favorite book or listen to music. Have you looked into maybe she is gettin a tooth or has and ear infection or something is keepin her awake for a reason somethin might be wrong.

Karin - posted on 01/12/2014

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I know this question is old and don't know if things have changed, but I had thep problem with my son from the day we brought him home from the hospital. He was just collicy but oh man I was exhausted and so was he. Although the rules keep changing, I laid him on his stomach to sleep and that helped a LOT. He just wasn't comfortable sleeping on his back. Anyway, just for future reference, I would lay my son on his back on either a blanket on the floor or on the bed or couch, would hold his feet and bend them up toward his chest. This would push out the gas in his tummy and make him more comfortable. I hope you were able to find a solution.

Carolyn - posted on 01/12/2014

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My son had colic twice a day. For about an hour after getting family off to school/work. And couple of hours every day after kids got home from school and me starting supper. Could feel the rumble in his left side. You know adults that have stomach problems caused by stress. My son was the same until he got a couple months older.

Kristy - posted on 12/10/2013

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She feels your stress/anxiety. Try no TV/phone calls,etc 45 min before wanting to laying her down and playing light/soft classical.music in her room. Try laying her in her crib (safe, no toys,etc.)Put a dark blanket over window to make it dark in the room. And lay her down and leave her with door cracked so you can peak in. Go vaccume like one mom suggested, wash clothes, dishes. One mistake I made with my oldest was always keeping the house super quiet, she got to where she wouldn't go to sleep unless it was super quiet. Once you know she's asleep, then you go lay down for nap too, with out moving her. A bath with camameal and lavender might help soothe the before nap as well. Hope this helps!

Tanya - posted on 12/09/2013

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My son cried forever!
Get a good rocking chair - warm blanket and hug tight
And rock away!
My son finally got older! And I got some sleep!

Alison - posted on 12/08/2013

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I remember getting to this state with my first son. I was so tired and he just wouldn't settle. I looked at the state of the lounge and thought 'if I just put him im his moses basket he can scream all he likes while I just put the vacuum cleaner round and I'll feel a bit better in having done something other than try to get him to sleep' So I put him down and vacuumed the room expecting him to be screaming all the louder by the time I'd finished. To my suprise he was sound asleep in 5 mins! The following week the lounge had never been so clean! I came to the conclusion that I was overstimulating him by too much contact. He was breast fed and I think he just smelled the milk all the time. He was also a very hungry baby and a little baby rice mixed with breast milk off a spoon really settled him at night. Good luck with the sleeplessness, it will pass in the end! My boy now has 2 children of his own. Time flies!

Gina - posted on 12/06/2013

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Hi Jessica

The problem could be acid reflux if she spits up a lot. If your nursing something you drinking or eating could hurt the belly and acid reflux can occur or allergies to stuff she's getting from your body. My kids were nursed but during my two attempts I finally did everything you did before calling doctor. He said use Good Start formula and add a tsp per 4 ounces. As soon as I did that both slept through night by 8weeks old. My Dr was very into nursing so transitioning to a bottle took trial snd error. The two best are wide heckler versions because they open so wide if the nurse a lot. I recommend plates with bag or Dr. Browns wide nipple one. The formula is not thick you onlymay have to use size 2 nipple. I ddidn't know that with my first and Dr Browns has Y shape but comes out fast so try level two to three. Make formula in bottles for your daytime amount of Ferdinand and add rice cereal when warm and ready to feed. The sell a formuka by infamil with the rice starch in it but it was cheaper to buy large powdered formula and a box of cereal. That wad advice from my Dr and it worked for me and many I told after me. When she is done eating you can nurse her if you think you milk isn't the problem just for comfort. My dd didn't like bottles but she did it and when I rocked her to sleep I would place her as though she was going to nurse but used a platex just like mom silicone pacifier and it worked like a charm. Jusr assess when its worse because if its after eating or lying down after eating is may be acid. Also, the antacids they prescribe DO NOTHING it will be wasted time.

Gina

Georgia - posted on 12/05/2013

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I have 8 children 4 boys and 4 girls ages 6-19. I've never personally experienced any of my children not napping and non stop crying. Has this been going on since birth? If so I would defiantly call your pediatrician because that is not normal. My best friend in high school had a baby a few months before I had my first child and he cried so much he gave himself a hernia it could be one of numerous problems and you should talk to your dr and have your baby checked out. There's numerous sleeping disorders in infants and adults. Good luck!

Jacquekc - posted on 12/03/2013

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All good suggestions above.

Here is a helpful website from expert advice on how to calm a crying baby:
Referencing Harvey Karp's "Happiest Baby" method for baby sleep and soothing. After feeding, burping, bathing playtime, the swaddle and shushing worked effectively every time on both my daughter and son.

http://www.babycenter.com/0_harvey-karps...

All the best!

Jane AJ - posted on 12/01/2013

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Please try to make baby room blank like night.
Don't turn on the TV, light so on.

Baby need to be educated to have good sleep habit.
When getting dark after your BB being educated, she will know that it's time to sleep.

Jolijn - posted on 11/30/2013

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What worked for my three kids was carrying them in a sling or baby carrier, they woul calm down immediately and even fall asleep, still use it with my 16 month old in the ergobaby carrier. Hope it works for you so you and your baby can sleep :)

Lori - posted on 11/28/2013

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I started a routine at night when my baby was 4 weeks old. I nurse but supplement formula for the bottle right before bed so I can pump (going back to work soon) then I change him n go in my bedroom. I put him in a swaddle blanket lay him in his cosleeper n read him a story. Then we both lay there n he drifts off to sleep. He is 6 weeks n I have no problems putting him to bed at night with the occasional fight of the swaddle but that only lasts a min. He wakes between 4-6 to nurse then sleeps for another 2-3 hrs. In the morn he nurses then we go in the living room where he has a travel bassinet for naps. I'm planning on putting him in the bedroom soon for day naps but the key is repetition. They get to know what comes next n take comfort in that n they feel secure. Whatever u find that works n u wanna do, stick with it. once she has that security it may help her calm down. Plus she probably senses ur stress. It will get better, it was tough the first 4 weeks for me until i started our routine. Good luck n try to relax! :)

Niamh - posted on 11/23/2013

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Give her a bath. Rub her with lotion and jammies and bed. Every night. She will learn the routine and it will relax her and kepp her calm when falling asleep

Eileen - posted on 11/22/2013

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Unfortunately, it sounds like the typical reaction to the 2 month vaccines. Did she just have her vaccines. It sounds like if you continue she can be a candidate for autism. Check out our website www.VaccineLiberationArmy.com

Sue - posted on 11/22/2013

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Raw food and vegetable juices. Take him off sugar completely, except that found in fresh fruit.

Rocio - posted on 11/21/2013

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We are on the same page since day one my bob hasn't slept during the day. He is four months he will take 10-15 naps here and there buts that's about it. He cries all day nothing makes him happy. Even if I carry him it don't help I'm so depressed & tired & don't know what else to do. Good luck mom & lets hope for a change

Tracy - posted on 11/21/2013

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Hi I am a sleep consultant and it sounds like you need to look at your overall schedule. Do you have a night time schedule before you put your little one to sleep at night. Having a night time routine helps them know it is time to go down for the night. Night feedings are ok at this age but keep it dark and quite during the night. Once morning is here take your baby out of the room and start the day in the light to signal that it is day time. Look at your awake times too as your little one might be getting over tired. Try to put your baby down for the first nap after a 1.5 hour of awake time. Also, look at what you are doing to get your little one down for sleep. You should be putting your baby down awake so they can learn to self-soothe and not rely on any props to get to sleep. I hope this helps. Tracy from sleeptightbabies.com

Fareeda - posted on 11/19/2013

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Try Colic Calm Gripe Water. It's a homeopathic remedy. Safe for babies. My son was colicky and this bottle helped me. Or tyy other brands too. The one I mentioned is a little pricey. Go ahead and mention this to your pediatrician. Trust your gut. Good luck with everything.

Lauren - posted on 11/17/2013

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For me, I had to first calming my little guy with Raggae music (Bob Marley), which worked like magic. Sing and dance with him to the beat. Then switch to white noise and keep singing if he needs a bit more to close those eyes.

That would also help me relax him enough to eat. He would be so fussy so quickly that I'd have to calm him down first!

Kelly - posted on 11/16/2013

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I too swaddled my baby and was baffled when he would only take short naps and continued to wake many times through the tonight. When I laid him on his belly, With no swaddle and awake he fussed for a few short minutes and then slept for 7 solid hours. I couldn't believe it! I was so happy to fade out the swaddle :)

Leigh - posted on 11/15/2013

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Kelly- no, I laid my kids on their back. I swaddled my kids fro quite a while

Kelly - posted on 11/15/2013

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Is your baby a belly sleeper? I know it is not recommended, however I found it was the ONLY way my LO would sleep

Leigh - posted on 11/15/2013

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Your baby probably has colic. If they do (ask dr), then do whatever it takes to help them until 12-13 weeks to sleep, let them sleep on you, etc. after colic subsides use the book "healthy sleep habits, happy child " by dr. Marc weissbluth. My colicky daughter went from waking 6-7 x a night and only napping on me, to after 1 month max, waking 1- no x a night and sleeping in her crib for naps. Saved me!!! My son ( who wasn't colicky) we adopted the principles straight away, and he slept 8hrs/night @ 8wks, 10/night @ 10 weeks, & 11/night @ 11 weeks!!! Good luck!

Andrea - posted on 11/14/2013

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Hope your situation has improved since you posted this. Did you take her to the Doctor? Ear infections are one of those sneaky things that can make them miserable. Supposedly they will pull on their ears if this is the problem but my daughter never did that when she had them, we only discovered them after trying everything we could think of to calm her down when she had spells like you have described and finally broke down to take her to the doctor where they came back and said "Ear Infection!"

Legacyforce - posted on 11/14/2013

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Sing, I sing to most kids that has a sleeping problem. Some kids have sleeping issues and it doesn't work, hold your baby close to you walk and hum or sing. Tell me if it works

Jessie - posted on 11/12/2013

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Hang in there!!! Call a friend or a relative to come and hold the baby for a little while to give you a break. Usually they cry like that when they have a gas pain. Try resting her tummy gently against your shoulder so that the shoulder puts slight pressure there. Or place her across your legs so that the knee does this, very gently. Otherwise, stop trying things, I'd be exhausted after all that. Sometimes they just cry for no reason.

Alvilda - posted on 11/11/2013

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She's probably going through a growth spurt. Feed her as often as possible, until your milk supply rises to meet the demand. This usually takes a couple of days and then everything returns to normal.

Cortney - posted on 11/10/2013

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My son was like that. He was breast fed for 14 months and it turns out he was lactose intolerant :( so of course he was miserable. Once he was on lactose free milk he was the happiest child. Good luck

Jaylene - posted on 11/08/2013

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When my daughter was upset, I would do the peddle bike motions with her legs... And gave her oval! Always seemed to work. & a nice bath.. Maybe try switching bottles? I tried the playtastic bag bottles and they where also never any extra air in!

Cassy - posted on 11/08/2013

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Hi.it sound like it colic.try infacol.you give it to them before nursing and then when she finish nursing all the little air bubbles that are trap in her tummy will come up with a huge burp.also i found gently jig the baby up and down sometimes help wind to come up.also when you rock her tap her bum it will soothe her because it like the sound of ur heartbeat when she was in the womb lastly stay calm because she will pick up on u feeling stressed try singin a lullaby.good luck

Padma - posted on 11/07/2013

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Try gripe water which is available in either in Walgreens or any Indian stores. This should help with Colic pains. I am a mother and a grand mother of 8 grand kids.

Alicia - posted on 11/06/2013

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Take your baby in the shower with you. Turn the water so it is as warm as you are comfortable with for baby. Hold her against your chest and rock her slowly in the steamy shower. She'll fall right asleep.

Jane - posted on 11/05/2013

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It's very normal for babies to have shot naps, this will definitely go with time.
Rgds
Jane

Grace - posted on 11/05/2013

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Make sure she burps after feedings , it could be gas, also if you are breast feeding , becareful with your diet. massage her tummy or a warm towell or blanket wrap it around her tummy.

Jane - posted on 11/05/2013

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All three of my children went through a period (around same age) where they were inconsolable. I was desperate when my first went through it (short naps, lots of crying, no way to soothe). In the end, I just held them. It lasted a couple of weeks, and I was told some babies have growth spurts where they are out of sorts, and may need more cuddling and feeding than normal. Both my sisters' babies went through something similar. Thankfully, they assured me it was pretty normal to have phases where they go through upset periods.

You didn't mention if you are breastfeeding (it could be something you ate), or formula. If the crying is new (and babt had been ok before) I would just hold them swaddled up with pressure on their tummy (like walk around with them pressed to your chest). If this keeps up definitely check with your physician but mine all got fussy around 2 months for a week or two.

One thing I found was running water in the background. I poured myself a bath and realized the baby had fallen asleep. Bouncy chairs (vibrations on) worked wonders for us also.

Alvia But I Go By GEAN - posted on 11/05/2013

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I was told that rubbing lavender oil under the babies feet. Only under the feet. Do not DRINK.

Robin - posted on 11/04/2013

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Sounds like a perfect candidate for baby wearing. Yes, all the time. 9 weeks is very young, and neurological "disorganization" is very common. She just needs to be close.

Irma - posted on 11/03/2013

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Warm bath. Then massage your baby all over. Chamomile tea in the bottle. If you don't want to do the chamomile add a little cereal to formula. If you believe in God also pray a little while while you are holding your baby.... It soothes them. Good luck, God bless.

Amie - posted on 11/02/2013

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My son never napped more than 30 minutes at a time and I had to rock him to sleep every time for the first 2 years of his life! He was overly tired around 4 months and I had to just keep putting him back to sleep with a nap. Once you get past that over tired stage, start the 90 minute cycle. Worked with all three of my kids! At that newborn age they need to sleep every 90 minutes, so after they wake up they eat, play, need changed and then it's time to nap again. I promise this works, so if there is nothing wrong with her then getting her on this schedule will keep you both sane! Good luck.

Catherine - posted on 10/26/2013

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Try hanging your baby upside down, and walk around like that with her resting on your back. I'm not kidding. If she doesn't stop crying in a couple of minutes, try putting her in a soft baby carrier for the back. If you don't have one, use a front pack with the straps crossed over your chest, then take a walk. It sounds like your baby has too much energy built up and no way to release it, because she's not yet crawling on her own. When you're exercising, you're releasing energy, so her energy will transfer to you if you're touching, and you'll then release it. Nursing or touching her when you're having an orgasm will release her excess energy too.

User - posted on 10/25/2013

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Along with changing to a dairy free diet to try and see if it helps as others have suggested. Try getting in a warm bath with baby in your chest. Turn out the lights with only one or two candles and soft, no words, music. Lay back and let baby nuts if wanted. I have a friend with a VERY high needs child. She is three and still very high needs. Her momma would get in the tub like this and her daughter would calm every time. Also just go to bed with baby if you can't get in the tub. Close the door and turn on a fan that makes noise. Lay baby beside you, or on you, or sit reclined in the bed. The point is to eliminate all types of stimulation. Sometimes all that stimulation and movement is just to much for them. My middle son was very sensitive to things and he would just need a time out of sorts, from the day. It may be what your baby needs from time to time.

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