2 month old son seems to hate eating...for us

Chris - posted on 10/01/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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First, we are adoptive parents, since he was 2 days old, so we don't have breast-feeding as an option.
Second, he's gaining weight and seems happy. We've tried different bottles, nipples, and switched from Similac Advance to Sensitive. We've tried gas drops too.

He would routinely finish his bottles for his first month or so. Lately, he eats like 2 ounces, after making it clear he was hungry, and then he freaks out. He starts thrashing about, crying, head-banging. Sometimes if we swaddle him and put in a dummy we can trick him to eat more. Then sometimes he will drain his bottle with little problem.

Additionally, he generally doesn't have this problem with his Nanny. We try mimicking her style and get the same fussiness as always.

Last night he ate 4oz over 8 hours, which is not enough for an almost 10 week old. Then, as soon as Nanny got there, he finished his bottle no problem.

I'm totally frustrated.

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Chris - posted on 10/01/2013

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Yes, we were both home the first month and now still feed him in the morning and evening and night. given that he sometimes eats fine for us, and we had him from day 2, I don't think this is a bonding issue. I know parents, birth parents, who had to go back to work faster than we did.

Sarah - posted on 10/01/2013

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Did you guys take time off work after placement? In an average day/week how much time does the nanny spend with your son?

I work for an adoption agency and some of the things they require the adoptive parents to do to help the child bond are: Only adoptive parents hold, feed and change baby the first week.....this allows baby to learn the smell and voice of his mom and dad. The second week only adoptive parents can feed and change baby, close friends and family may hold baby. They also require the adoptive family to take 8 weeks off after placement. It can be one parent that does the whole 8 wks. or it can be one parent doing some and the other parent doing some. This again helps the baby to bond to it's adoptive parents.

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