2 y.o. discipline

Deanna - posted on 04/02/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I am having a tough time disciplining my 2 year old. She is very head strong and wants to do what she wants to do. I approach if she is in touble by telling her she is in trouble tell her its time for time out...and she comes back at me saying "no!"and won't stay there. Every time she gets up I add another minute and she ends up staying for 10 minutes. I've tried taking away toys/TV time and even resulted to a switch. taking away objects doesn't matter to her either. The switch is the is the only thing that gets her attention but she will continue to do what is wrong. Any suggestions?

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Chana - posted on 04/02/2015

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Deanna, She is a perfectly normal 2 year old. Trust me she will try your patience of time she gets the chance. It is just what they do. My youngest likes to pull her sisters hair and we are still working on getting her to stop. It is an ongoing process. You will both get through it, I promise. She may give you a few gray hairs but nothing a good dye job can't fix. LOL

Dove - posted on 04/02/2015

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Go make your own troll posts, Catsnweed, and stay off the legitimate ones..

Deanna, she is NORMAL. I promise. She likes to pinch? Big sister or little sister? Does the pinched kid cry? When she pinches tell her 'no pinching, pinching hurts... be gentle.' and then SHOW her gentle by having her either gently stroke her sister or by stroking your cheek (if sister is too upset to tolerate). If she pinches again... repeat the process, but then put her in time out and tell her 'since you can't stop pinching, you can't play for a while'. Keep doing it... every time she pinches. React calmly, but matter of fact that hurting her sister simply isn't allowed. She WILL stop... even if it seems like it will never end.

Does she have to share all her toys w/ her sister? Are there things that she can play w/ whenever she wants that her sister can't touch and things her sister can play w/ whenever she wants that your 2 year old can't touch?

Chana - posted on 04/02/2015

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First ignore Catsnweed, she is an evil troll that won't leave us alone. I don't think a switch is the best solution for a head strong 2 year old. There is a reason why they call it they TERRIBLE TWOS. They are constantly testing their limits, exploring their world it is all part of growing. There is a program called 1-2-3 Magic which I have found to work with both my girls ages 4 and 2 1/2. Basically you give them a 3 count; That's 1 for throwing toys; that's 2 for throwing; that's 3 for throwing then you do the time out. Let her know what the consequences are for the action and follow through. You need to be consistent all the time. I haven't add much success taking things away from a 2 year old because they just move on to something else. 2 is a tough age because they want to be independent but yet still need so much help and guidance. Good Luck you will get through it.

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Deanna - posted on 04/02/2015

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I just don't want her to get the idea it is ok to get out of time to pee pee and her make it as an excuse to get up. Sometimes she will say she has to so I will take her and she won't go.

That is hilarious. I always have a hard time getting both back inside. I'm from AL so we get to play outside often. I hardly ever hear a fit about not wanting to go outside. I say the word outside and they are at the door waiting.

Chana - posted on 04/02/2015

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I would let her go pee because the last thing you want is for her to have an accident but then she goes back to timeout.
You will laugh. We live in PA so this is the first really nice day we have had in months. I said about cleaning up toys and going outside for a little bit. My youngest starts screaming "I not want to go outside" at the top of her lungs. I just said that it wasn't her choice we were going. The whole time I am getting her ready to go she is still screaming. We go outside anyway she plays and was having a good time. I said(after a warning) that it was time to go in for lunch and she starts all over again but this time it is "I not want to go inside". So it is normal.

Deanna - posted on 04/02/2015

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Exactly Chana!

What do I do when I'm trying to get her to stay in time and she starts sating she has to go pee pee? Should I let her go then put her back in time out or let her stay there?

Chana - posted on 04/02/2015

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Deanna, Again very normal for them to fight over one specific toy even if you have 10. Mine are 4 and 2 1/2 about 19 months apart so I can sympathize with you. One minute they are getting along fine and the next thing you know one of them is crying.

Deanna - posted on 04/02/2015

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Older sister is 4. They are exactly 2 years apart. Big sister will either try for revenge or just come crying to me. They are close in age so they enjoy playing with the same things and with each other. They have 10 baby dolls but will fight over one! They have very few things that are just theirs alone.

Deanna - posted on 04/02/2015

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If she isn't sharing toys she gets the toy she's not sharing taken away. And she has a habit of pinching her sister. Then she gets in time out for that. Just a few examples.

Deanna - posted on 04/02/2015

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No where in my post does it say I hit my child! A switch is a twig off a tree. All I do is show it to her and she gets scared and starts listening.

Dove - posted on 04/02/2015

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What is it she wants to do that she is not allowed to do? Most 2 year old kids are headstrong... you can't beat that out of them and you shouldn't try. There's nothing wrong w/ the time out taking 10 minutes if that's how long it takes for her to STAY for her 2 minutes. It sounds like she is a very normal 2 year old who may be getting slightly confused because mom keeps changing her approach. Nothing will 'work' immediately... she's 2. Now is the time for testing boundaries to see if what mom said 10 minutes ago is still truth. I know a mom who spent most of a week sticking her kid in time out over and over and over again when he was 2/3 years old. The next week? Maybe once or twice a day... After that... maybe a couple of times/week. Your daughter is normal and testing you... You just have to be more headstrong (ie: patient) than she is....

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