2 Year Old With Autism?

Kayla - posted on 12/13/2013 ( 44 moms have responded )

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So my son is just over 2 now. The only thing he will say is "ma" for mom. Sometimes he points to his dad and says "da". He used to say cup, but now he doesn't say that at all. I have had his hearing checked, and he can hear just fine. He has 2 sisters, an older one and a younger one, and he plays fine with them, but if I take the kids to the park or library, he will not play with other kids.



Some other things that I find odd, are that if anyone besides me changes his diaper, he screams his head off (sometimes my husband can with out my son screaming but that is very rare). I have left him with my mom before, and when I left he went to the window saying "ma, ma, ma" and my mom said he just sat on the couch until I returned. He didn't want to play or watch a movie or anything.



He understands everything I say. I can ask him to put his dirty laundry in the basket, turn off the light, etc and he does it. He just doesn't say anything, even if I say "light" he won't repeat it. And I have endlessly kept trying to get him to repeat words in a subtle way like that, but he just stares at me or walks away.



I try to teach him to say words, but he doesn't focus. He starts throwing fits, and then sometimes he will just walk to his room and sit on his bed with this blank look on his face. Believe me, I have tried everything that I can think of. Is there anyone with advice on what I should do, or if he has some sort of medical condition? I really don't know what to do. I should add that I have been to some workshops for parents on children with speech delays, and he has been referred to a speech pathologist, so we are waiting for that appointment. Any advice or support would be appreciated, just please don't be rude. He is only 2, yet he is bigger than my almost 4 year old, so he looks a lot older than he is and I have heard so many rude comments from people, I just can't take anymore.

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BRENDA - posted on 12/15/2013

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Kayla

The best thing you can do for your son is to have an evaluation done by a developmental pediatrician. They specialize in all sorts of possible diagnosis's. My fear 10 years ago is that our son who had 5 words in his vocabulary and at 18 months lost them was he had Autism. That was the diagnosis we received but early intervention was huge for our son and if any services are needed ie; speech it would help your little guy tremendously. I'm not sure what state your in we live in NH and the school system by law has to offer a pre school program for an identified child who has an IEP. There is lots of help out there. Also our son never looked his age always bigger. Ignore the rude people they will wear you down. If I can help email me @live2sew32@gmail.com

Susan De - posted on 12/15/2013

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I have worked with autistic kids for over thirty years. Try singing the same song every time you change him. When he says ma, you say mom. He is at a key age. The connections in his brain may lessen. They key goes into the lock but it doesn't turn. Neuro rebranching is key. Text or call me Susan Deprima. 4088888428

Moeder - posted on 01/02/2014

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Hi Kayla,
I have 5 children of my own of which 3 couldn't speak before they became 2 already. My second child was 30 months old when his first word was "aarbei" (strawberry). Today he has 3 degrees, has a very succesful career. My first son spoke full sentences on 16 months. The TV-people wanted him on TV because his vocabulary was the equivalent to a six year old. He became a successful surgeon. My third child's first word on 26 months was "water". She is busy with her second degree and a very successful woman in her job. The fouth one had a normal development. My fifth child's first word on 24 months was "mama". He is a boffin in technology. You mentioned that he exactly knows what you want. Why does he have to speak then? Try to get him to speak to tell you what he wants. Tell him that you are not sure what he wants. It worked for my 3 child. She always showed me what she wanted, then I responded until my mother said that I mustn't respond is she doesn't tell me what she wants. It worked immediately. I personally think that the reason your child gets that quiet moments, is that you make such a fuss of his talking and I think he is intelligent enough to realise you think there is something wrong with him. People also made a big thing of my first child who only started walking on 15 months, but I ignored their looks and talks behind their hands. His son who is 18 months now, also started walking on 15 months like his dad. And I mean, my son is a very successful surgeon today. I don't think you have to worry. Books are only guidelines and written by people who my children have proven wrong.

Marcykayjohnson - posted on 12/26/2013

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My son was diagnosed with autism and had speech delays when he was a toddler, he used to say ma, ma, ma too when he was 2. He said his first sentence when he was 3, he saw a wrapped birthday present and said " what is that" , we were shocked. He's 13 now and speaks slowly at times, has a hard time getting his words out but he has made great progress. It takes patience and early intervention from your public school system, call your school district if you haven't done so yet and they should have a special program for kids in the spectrum, my son started going to public school when he was 2 years old. Just be patient and kind and accept him for who he is. My son had to deal with kids rejecting him because of his differences and he needs to feel love and acceptance at home. Embrace his differences, teach him not everyone has to be the same.

Melanie - posted on 12/22/2013

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Hi: One other thing I was thinking of....do you think it would help if when you are changing his diaper or doing other things that he does not want anyone but you to do, to have another person help? If your son sees them with you and being part of what you are doing, maybe he will eventually allow that other person to do the task. You could start as the primary person and eventually work towards you being the one who is watching and the other person doing it while you are there. It may be a place to start to having him get comfortable with other people.

If he is not repeating your words, although it is frustrating for you, keep doing it. Even though he is not saying the words, he could be absorbing it and everything else going on around him. If you can find the book 'Carly's Story' about the autistic girl who found her voice through typing, it is an excellent read. She didn't talk either, but she said she would read the newspaper while it was sitting on the table and she listened to the news even though she was in another room. I worked with severely disabled children for many years and my boss told me that even though they could not speak, keep reading, talking and exposing them to everything as you move through your day. If they don't understand any of it, it won't do them any harm to hear it anyway. If they do understand it, you have opened a whole life to them.

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Flo - posted on 01/03/2014

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hi Kayla,

I have worked with children with ASD. My advise is please do not jump to conclusion. Wait until the referral. Cross the bridge when it comes :-) You may also ask your pediatrician to give you referral to see a developmental pediatrician because not all pediatrician are equal and developmental pediatrician specialized in those developmental milestones.

Your title suggested Autism, which is the reason why I give you the link below.
Here is a very informative and trusted source for anything ASD. http://www.autismspeaks.org/what-autism/...

Again speech delay can be caused by various factors... so go see an SLP (Speech therapist first) then we can cross the bridge :-)

Sincerely,
Florence

Amanda - posted on 01/02/2014

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good for getting further testing! I wish I had sooner! I have a behavioral developmental peds appointment this month...I'm duo excited to finally start getting answers. :)

also, I'm sure they might mention this in speech therapy, but have you tried any sign language with him? or there is a system called PECS that uses pictures to help him communicate with you. http://www.speechbuddy.com/blog/speech-t...

best of luck! :)

Amanda

Kayla - posted on 01/02/2014

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So here is an update for everyone who has helped with their advice:
My son is doing well. Still no new words, but I have seen some progress with his communication skills even though they aren't verbal yet. I liked the suggestion about taking pictures of his things and putting them up throughout the house, so I did that, and he gets excited when he sees them and he yells haha

I had his hearing tested, and he hears perfectly, so I was happy about that. He is currently waiting for his appointment with the speech therapist at the Children's Hospital where we live. I just took him to an appointment with his pediatrician and through further testing by her, she has decided to test him for autism. Although he doesn't show all the signs, he definitely shows some, and she told me it's best to get it tested for.

In regards to his size, thank you for the advice, but in my sons case, he is just big because his dad is 6 foot 5 and big built, and all the men on my side of the family are over 6 feet tall! He was almost 12 pounds when he was born. So he's just a big kid.

Thank you everyone for your advice and support. I am dealing with this better now. He is always my sweet baby boy and I love him unconditionally. It doesn't matter the outcome of this, because I am raising him to be strong and to accept the differences and obstacles life throws at us!

Amanda - posted on 01/02/2014

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Kayla,
I think my daughter may be autistic.
I understand you. I feel your pain. I couldn't tell you how many times I've cried on the floor with my daughter just wanting her to speak so badly!! she had delayed speech and little or no words for a very long time.she's five years old now.but first let me back this up:

the most helpful thing you can do is send your child NOT ONLY to a developmental pediatrician but also see if you can get a referral to a geneticist!!! DO NOT let others blow off your concerns - I've done that for 5 years. when I finally started voicing my concerns, my daughter is now seeing a dev peds, and getting special needs in school. DON'T WAIT! LISTEN TO YOUR "MOM VOICE" - always!

as far as your son's large size: my daughter has Sotos syndrome - also known as cerebral gigantism. I'm not saying this is what your son has but there are also other genetic syndromes that aren't necessarily passed down from parents and they might be spontaneous. we found out Lily had so does in a roundabout incident starting from a septic virus, in which case she had to be shipped to when I see you, where they found out she had a heart murmur, and all this in relation to the club feat. She was born with -- the pediatrician suggested we see a geneticist because all these things as a whole complicated the picture and he thought it might be part of some kind of genetic syndrome.and it turns out she actually has an overgrowth syndrome called Soto syndrome.
she's five years old ways 66 pounds, and is probably about three and three quarters feet tall, if not four! (haven't gotten a height in awhile!)

so anyways, everything that she's ever had problems with was always attributed to the Sotos but now I think she might have autism because of some of her behaviors. this is opening up a whole new way of seeing things, but I really understand what you're going through.

if you haven't already it's very crucial you begin your child in early intervention/help me grow services! my services were free from the state of Ohio - maybe under a different name in your state.
they are soooo important for a few reasons because they begin at an early age, when the brain is first starting to make these connections. also, this will help your child when they begin preschool or kindergarten because his IFSP will transfer to an IEP more easily than starting from scratch.
my daughter Lily saw a speech therapist for apraxia when she was small.she made leaps and bounds of progress but she continues to have problems.I'm so glad you signed him up for speech therapy!

I know this was long winded, but I can't leave out medical details because I'm a nurse. lol.
**if you ever want to talk or have any questions, you can Facebook me. Facebook.com/ahineline

just remember when the moments are difficult - you are doing the best with what you've been given and your son loves you more than anybody in the world ♥

Amanda

JAAAAA - posted on 01/02/2014

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The fact is, either you of dad may well have "to take it" for a long, long time to come. So get started NOW. Get your son (and you) the best help available, NOW. Find a reputable AND QUALIFIED, doctor or group. Get a diagnosis, and get the help that both you and your son will benefit from. Dr. Meryl Lipton, Rush University Medical Center, NeuroBehavioral Center in Skokie, IL (847) 763.7949, is my recommendation. She or the staff will work with you on finding someone locationally convenient to you if she is not.

Yvonne - posted on 01/02/2014

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I'M A TWO TEAR OLD TEACHER. SOME TODDLERS AT THIS AGE HAVE AN EXPANDED VOCABULARY AND SOME ONLY SAY A FEW WORDS. IF YOU ARE CONCERNED AT ALL PLEASE SOEAK TO YOUR PEDIATriCIAN! MAKE SURE HE IS NOT BEING "babied" by you, his mom. Not to be rude, but parents (and I am a parent tOo) can hinder a child's development if you are doing everything for him, siblings THAT are speaking for him, and you might understand what he says or points to or wants, but other family members might not, so it is frustrating to him and he screams and cries for you. Not that this may be the problem, but it could make his lack of using words worse. I WOULD ALSO ENCOURAGE HIM TO SPEAK, ASK QUESTIONS TGST ARE MORE THAN YES OR NO ANSWERS. Talk to him in a big boy voice, instead of accepting his pointing ASK him what he wants or needs and tell him that "we use our big boy words". ASK YOUR PEDIATRICIAN WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP HIM LEARN NEW WORDS, BUT IF YOU FEEL THERE IS A PROBLEM THEN PLEASE SPEAK UP. He could be a late speaker, or there could be an underlying problem that needs to be addressed early on. BEST WISHES!

Keana - posted on 12/31/2013

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He may have apraxia have him evaluated for speech. My son is apraxic and he lost words as a toddler. They thought he had autism but that was ruled out by testing. Then they dx apraxia.

Donna - posted on 12/30/2013

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My son understood everything but wouldn't talk much at all at 18 months so we took him to the pediatrician who recommended speech therapy. We had no diagnosis until after he was 3 but did speech therapy on a weekly basis until we had the diagnosis (and then twice a week thereafter). Turns out, he has apraxia of speech, so he has trouble with the motor control needed to form words. Blockage of the neural pathways. He's five now and has worked very hard to catch up with his peers. That said, he didn't show the same issues with affect that you describe with your son, so apraxia may not be the issue. However, working with a speech therapist, no matter what the ultimate diagnosis, is a very worthwhile pursuit. At the very least, it will give you and your son tools to communicate with one another, which will hopefully make things easier on all sides.

Jennifer - posted on 12/29/2013

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I'm disappointed in hearing people made rude remarks because we are here to offer support not put you down. It seems as if you need to find additional ways of communicating with your two year old. He seems invested in his own world at times. However, there are things you can do such as get visual card or pecs(picture exchange system). There are many site that offer free printable pictures and encouraging him to talk. How do you encourage him to talk? When he wants something such as if he wants an apple than have a picture of an apple and teach him to go get the picture and bring it to you for an apple. When you go get an apple than before you give it to him tell him say apple and wait a bit and see if he says it. If you start with a couple picture of common things hes familiar with at the house he train him to do that than eventually he will develop a language to speak. You can take pictures of items that he frequently request and start there. Also, when he goes to your mother take special toys he enjoys playing with and have your mother role model how to play with the toy by letting him lead the way. This is called floortime and youll form a good bond with your son. Google: floortime and read up on it. Let him progress on his own time but offer encouragement but not being aggressive or overly pushy with him. Try to teach him alot with the use of pictures. He just might have a different way of communicating his wants and needs. Also, a different way of learning so you need to explore and discover how he learns best and go off his strengths. Good Luck!! Take a deep breathe and exhale things are going to be fine. Also, don't let other people comments affect you. remember they are only peoples opinion and not their identity of who they really are. Pray for God to show you or place the right people in your life to help and guide you. Good Luck!!

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This may have been said already, but if he has been diagnosed with Autism already than Early Intervention is a good resource. It will give him an early start on learning the skills that all kids need. Some other things to try as you wait for your speech pathologist to get in touch is using pictures (Boardmaker) and using them for everything to help him communicate in an alternative way to speaking. Routines, schedules (with pictures) and making transitions for him easier will make both your lives easier. You can use pictures or timers to count down, allowing him to know what's coming next. My last suggestion is the use of social stories which can be used for almost anything. You can make them up yourself or find many different kinds online for almost any topic you need. You'll probably run into boardmaker pictures in your search for social stories. My prayers go out to you and your family. I've seen these ideas be put into place and help family after family. Patience and consistency are key! =)

Nany - posted on 12/27/2013

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My daughter who is 29 was the same thing when she was that age. She started talking when she was 3 1/2. I think is something about the middle child that does that. When she started talking she never stop. Today she has two beautiful girls and the second one who is two has the same problem. She was told by her doctor that she needs to take her to a speech specialist but when she is with her sister she talks, sings, recites all the words from a Disney TV show or a movie she likes and she lately is saying mom, mine, and one day she said what happened? to her sister, yes she is very very attached to her parents but when she is with me she plays and she has her own little talk..I think they grow out of that she also used to throw herself to the floor and bang her head on the wall and all those tantrums when we start telling her NO and pretending to spank her for that she stopped doing that. She is a sweet little girl and little by little is starting o talk at her own time. If people are rude to you with rude comments ignore them..Love yr child unconditional.

Linda - posted on 12/26/2013

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I hope my 2 year old is a late talker! I'm so nervous and scared he will be diagnosed with something. He does like being around other kids when we go to the zoo. Hopefully he's just a late talker

Linda - posted on 12/26/2013

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Sounds like my 2 year old as well. He doesn't speak but when he wants something he will pull on my shirt of my husband's shirt. If I ask him certain things like, would you like some milk? He pulls my shirt and runs to the kitchen. He's my first baby and I don't have any other children or any other kids near him to interact. He'll be seeing a speech therapist soon. I'm so nervous and scared he'll be diagnosed with autism. I know how you all feel. Please let us know how he does. Best wishes!

Julie - posted on 12/23/2013

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This sounds very similar to my son. With extensive speech therapy and early intervention he started speaking at 3 & 1/2. The school system diagnosed him with a cognitive delay. He has interest is socializing now, but it is still awkward at best. Now at 6 he was just diagnosedwith Aspergers. There should be some form of early intervention wherever you live. If you call them they will come evaluate your child in your home and provide services free of charge until he is 3 and than instruct you and how to go about getting him free special education preschool through the school district if he needs it.

Tiffany - posted on 12/22/2013

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I did not personally have this issue with my child but I noticed that my Godson was a late talker if there is such a thing. He would make noises and say some words that no one but him could understand but mostly he just made noises. He recently started talking out of the clear blue and even his mom was surprised because it all happened so quickly as he was close to turning 3. Now he just talks talks talks.... Maybe your child just isn't ready yet like my Godson who is nearly 3.5 and still not completely interested in going to the potty. I guess he's just a late starter. His mom continued to talk to him and repeat words to see if he would say them even when he wouldn't, so don't give up and certainly don't lose hope that it's simply him/her not being ready yet. *Hugs*

Jana Lyn - posted on 12/22/2013

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I have listened to the research in a lecture of Dr. Rick Sponaugle of the Florida Detox and Wellness Center.
He has had tremendous results treating autism.

http://floridadetox.com/dr-sponaugle/

1-888-775-2770
I pray there is help there for your little boy.
Blessings,
Jan

Melanie - posted on 12/22/2013

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I have worked with autistic children in a school setting for 14 years. I worked very closely with the families of these children. It is why I was interested in reading your post. It sounds like your son is lucky to have a mom like you. His greatest strength will be you and your husband advocating for him. You will figure it out. I would keep checking out every possible professional link you have available to you. If you don't like what you hear, look further. With time, it may sort itself out on its own. It may just be a delayed milestone, but for peace of mind, you need to keep checking it out. If it is autism, sooner is better for helping him out.

I was very disappointed at the end of the post to read that people are rude to you. Just know that when people are rude, it stems from insecurity and ignorance. Some people just can't help themselves. When I read things like this, it makes me more aware of things I may say or do to others that might make them feel like you do. I think we all need to remind ourselves of that once in awhile.

Christine - posted on 12/21/2013

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This happened to my son after MMR vaccination. Didn't speak for an entire year. We got him tested and he started speech and Occupational therapy. Later on he was diagnosed with ADHD and sensory. He still continues his therapy at age of 6. It's been a long road but there is free help when they are under 3. Look into it for your state. We are considering no more vaccinations.

Jen - posted on 12/20/2013

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First of all, don't panic. Talk to your pediatrician about your concerns. It's entirely possible that it's just a speech delay. There can be many causes. And if it is autism, the sooner he starts therapies the better.

My son was 2 1/2 before he said his first word. He started speech therapy at 2 through the school district's Early Intervention program (it's free. Call your district to set it up!) and stayed in it til 5. We had to have him evaluated for autism, but his delay was caused by a muscle development problem. He's now 7, talks non-stop, and excels in school, reading several grade-levels ahead of his classmates He still has some slight pronunciation problems, but a couple of months of in-school speech therapy (starting when he goes back after winter break) will straighten those out.

Good luck!

Chey - posted on 12/19/2013

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I will also add that autism CAN be diagnosed at a very early age. The goal is to diagnose ASAP. Early intervention is key. They can diagnose even at 18 months and signs are recognized earlier then a year.

Chey - posted on 12/19/2013

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If you have concerns about your child's development it is very beneficial to consult a specialists regarding the matter. However, it does not sound like classic autistic traits, but the autistic spectrum is broad so it could if anything be a mild case. I dont feel this is it though. Many boys seem to only say a few words until almost three and then they burst into conversation out of no where. I still recommend consulting if you are concerned but this really is common for boys. My own son for ex. Same thing-mama, dada, dog, ball Ect until almost 3. I now, have difficulties getting him to be silent. Also, when he did speak, he exploded in words and concepts well beyond his wee years. Pointing as you suggested is not an autistic trait at all, neither is playing with siblings.

Julie - posted on 12/19/2013

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If u have time please do call ...I could inform of so many things...like doc don't like to diagnosis autism til later years cause it could b a development issue but if u need to take your steps early with child to get better results...also insurance my nit cover autism. the speech delay and visual sensory are your tickets in to insurance and getting the help with iep ....

Julie - posted on 12/19/2013

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Cont part 2.....singing is great...even speaking in a rhythmic sounds with high and low pitches work wonders. ask doc bout joint compression...brushing techniques and applying "pressure" during and to avoid meltdowns. Through his favorite blanket over his face when u see he is uncomfortable. and ask bout meds. I never wanted to do this route with my child but it is amazing what a big difference it makes. do lots..lots. of for shadowing. Ex: after lunch we r going to grandma's cause mom has to work. what special toys do u wanna bring? your son will really need this. use lots of first and thens ....first eat breakfast then we can play with trucks and repeating will help lots too...like a broken record. but it is needed :) call or txt me anytime. with all the love and strength. Julie Wollersheim. 920-629-9225

Julie - posted on 12/19/2013

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Cont part 2.....singing is great...even speaking in a rhythmic sounds with high and low pitches work wonders. ask doc bout joint compression...brushing techniques and applying "pressure" during and to avoid meltdowns. Through his favorite blanket over his face when u see he is uncomfortable. and ask bout meds. I never wanted to do this route with my child but it is amazing what a big difference it makes. do lots..lots. of for shadowing. Ex: after lunch we r going to grandma's cause mom has to work. what special toys do u wanna bring? your son will really need this. use lots of first and thens ....first eat breakfast then we can play with trucks and repeating will help lots too...like a broken record. but it is needed :) call or txt me anytime. with all the love and strength. Julie Wollersheim. 920-629-9225

Julie - posted on 12/19/2013

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My son also has autism and I help clients with autism also. from what u r describing it also sounds like like a visual sensory which the two come hand in hand. the blanket over the face is a major sign with the meltdown. over stimulant with noise ...large amounts of people and even a large store maybe become overwhelming to ur son. my son good to almost 7 to really communicate. try your own sign language. ex: I would open and close my fist for "more" ...touch lips if. hungry. your son may have more meltdowns.
when not understood

Jharna2000_2000 - posted on 12/18/2013

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I can understand your sons problem it have twins one boy one girl they are 9 years old at age of 2 I also notice the same with my son and showed him to doctor they guided us to take help from Autism program at Montogomary county we die many things then people came from that and score him and they started come to home twice in a week and help him with spea h and other activities at age three he went to school special program and he is continuing the same now we are happy he can talk and make sentences but less than my daughter
You need lots of patient and always be with him we gone through the same don't give up he will be alright you need to put him Autism program they help
Lots also school program help lots

A - posted on 12/18/2013

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I have been in similar situations with my kids. Start the process for speech therapy, they will teach through play. Have his ears checked, can he hear??? Children with autism do not tend to have good eye contact, how is his? Putting him in a program with other kids his age will help his speech. Children with autism tend to not point things out. He will throw fits, no one knows what he wants, it is frustrating. Ears tested and checked is first place he needs, I bet if he goes for an assessment they will want it checked first. My one child is diagnosed in the autism spectrum disorder she has problem with change , was not talking at 2. Not saying mama , she did when younger than stopped. My other child same for speaking. They has chronic ear infections and needed ear tubes and speech therapy. One child learned to speak using PEC program which means picture exchange program. My kids had awful tantrums, until their communication improved. Keep in mind autism cannot truly be diagnosed until a child is typically four. Obviously it can be earlier but most developmental paediatricians do wait. My other child has ADHD, odd,and anxiety. I know it's scary, but I can tell you first hand if you get help I place it will get better and there is no reason to suspect the worst. I know I did!! Lol one last question does he "stim" off of things, meaning does he flap his hands, do something over and over when he feels overwhelmed or anxious? My daughter sniffs her one blanket, puts her fingers in and rubs the blanket with her fingers in same way over and over. This can be a child chewing their shirt, etc. my child with autism is 4 and he can speak, yes delayed about a year but doing great, on a routine schedule he thrived. She is very rigid and this is typical for autistic kids. I'm sorry my info is all over , I just want you to know don't assume the worst and right now the diagnosis isn't the most important issue. Getting him on services to help where he struggles is a priority. Try not to compare him to his siblings, they are girls they learn and provess differently. If you ever want to chat about any if this I am happy to . Just remember if he does have autism it will be ok,just a different path to learning than you are familier with!!

Maria - posted on 12/18/2013

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I went through a similar situation with my son. He was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. As soon as I got the diagnosis i got him into an early intervention profs he is now 7 super smart a little awkward in social situations but over all is doing great and I couldn't be prouder. Follow ur guy instinct and do as much research as u can. Good luck.

Katrina - posted on 12/18/2013

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That's really great news Kayla. I'm glad you are able to take a step forwards. Great to see your doctor listening. :)

Kayla - posted on 12/17/2013

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Thank you everyone for the advice! I know he is a perfect little boy. I just want to get him the help he needs as early as possible. I talked to his doctor again and said that I think that this is more than just a speech delay. So he is going to refer him to a different doctor for an evaluation and we will go from there. Thanks for the support :)

Erica - posted on 12/17/2013

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Hi,my name is Erica in I just want to tell about a little boy in my family, when he was 2 in a half he only thing he said dah for everything .his mother brought him to the doctor in they could not find anything wrong .he is nine years old now in he sings in he likes to dance he is like any other nine year old .he talk a lot in he is doing great. The only person he would like to be around is his mom as well. Your son might just be attached to the people he's around the most. You should try to get him to start a special school early extra help is always good in you have doctors that can refer you to schools that are free of cost in the baby can get that extra push .i know it's tuff but it will get better.but try to get him started with special school early give him a little head start.but first go see a doctor because he might developing at his own pase. This happens a lot more than be think good luck

Maggie - posted on 12/17/2013

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I have been in he field for over twenty years and have a some on the spectrum. He was dx at 18 months. Initial evals began @ 16 months with all the signs that you are stating.
Autism speaks has a free "first 100 days"program. You should definitely look into that and any assessments as soon as possible. Early intervention is key.
My son is 4 now. He had 20 hours a week of Aba (applied behavior analysis) 6 speech session a week, OT and PT when he was first dx'd. I believe that this made all the difference.
I would definitely take your son to be evaluated- what's the worse that can happen? He could be fine and that will quell all your fears.
Best if luck
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forgot to add that he also started seeing an occupational therapist at the time when he was in speech therapy. It took him only 6 months of occupational therapy and the results were excellent! The funny thing is, he started going when everyone else said it was a bit too late because he was turning 6 already. Well, they were so so wrong!

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had the same problem with my son. Today he is 7years old and still does not like playing with other kids. He hates being around too many people he doesn't know as well. He has some 'autistic' traits but is not autistic. He has a speech delay and we started speech therapy when he was 5 turning 6. Today he still speaks when he feels like it which is hardly.....that is just his personality. Your child is still too young to diagnose with anything.....give it some time and don't just believe the first diagnosis that someone makes. In my case my son saw 4 edu psychs and only one of them proved to be right. The one who said he was perfectly normal but just had a speech delay. Thank God we believed her and not the others. When he turned 4 he started to say what he wanted but that was it.....he didn't make conversation with anyone.....he appeared almost lazy.....lazy to converse......so my advice to you is to just send him to speech therapy.....if he plays with his sisters there is no way that he can be autistic. My son would also sit and stare into space for minutes.....or he would play with his figurines the whole day all by himself. He loved his own space and he still does today. One thing he hated was when he could pick up that I was trying to 'teach' him how or what to say.....he still does. The day I decided to let him be was the day he proved to me that he was perfectly normal....he attends a mainstream school and is going to grade 2 next year. He is turning 8 and still is a loner. Just let your son be and don't make trying to 'teach' him anything too obvious. If he wants something don't just give it to him immediately......that's how my son's talking began......he will eventually ask for it.

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Katrina Perry - posted 6 hours ago
Hi Kayla, I agree with Brenda that a developmental paediatrician should be your next move if you feel there is more than just a speech delay. My son is 5 and was diagnosed with Autism when he was 3 and a half. Getting a diagnosis early means you are eligible for funding and also the early intervention is fantastic. With Autism, the sooner you learn how to help him manage, the better his outcome and yours as a family. Sounds like you love your little man so much so he's obviously in good hands. I also think it may be helpful to join an Autism community group either online or in person, to give yourself people to talk/relate to. Life can be very isolating when you have a child with Autism, so that can help, and also giving yourself time out. Just to be you. Doing something FOR you. I hope this helps a little. Good luck :)

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Amanda Hoard - posted 6 hours ago
It sounds like you are on the right track with getting the speech appointment set up. Talk to your pediatrician about your concerns and tell him flat out you want referrals for evaluations for a developmental pediatrician and occupational therapy. My daughter has had some issues and we started that route when she was 2 along with the speech therapy. Occupational therapy helps stimulate different parts of the brain and helps with sensory issues. Don't let people in your life tell you it's in your head or he'll grow out of it. You're his mom and you know when something is concerning. When you are at his therapy appointments talk to the other parents waiting. You will find a wonderful support system. Good luck and good for you for trying to get him help.

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BRENDA LEVESQUE - posted 1 day ago
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The best thing you can do for your son is to have an evaluation done by a developmental pediatrician. They specialize in all sorts of possible diagnosis's. My fear 10 years ago is that our son who had 5 words in his vocabulary and at 18 months lost them was he had Autism. That was the diagnosis we received but early intervention was huge for our son and if any services are needed ie; speech it would help your little guy tremendously. I'm not sure what state your in we live in NH and the school system by law has to offer a pre school program for an identified child who has an IEP. There is lots of help out there. Also our son never looked his age always bigger. Ignore the rude people they will wear you down. If I can help email me @live2sew32@gmail.com

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Susan de prima - posted 1 day ago
I have worked with autistic kids for over thirty years. Try singing the same song every time you change him. When he says ma, you say mom. He is at a key age. The connections in his brain may lessen. They key goes into the lock but it doesn't turn. Neuro rebranching is key. Text or call me Susan Deprima. 4088888428

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Kerry Marie - posted 3 days ago
Also the child I look after is a big boy aswell! He has always been big, it's a case of shutting it out, some people will never learn and don't understand what's different to them! Try not to let it get you both down. He'll always be your gorgeous son!

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Kerry Marie - posted 3 days ago
I actually work with an autistic boy, I have done for years now, however his autism was very sever and we had to teach him sign. We found that when he went to a special need school, although he got a lot done for him which made him a bit lazier his speach did improve. So mabye looking for a support group so he can socialiSe with other children going through what he Is.

A lot will come with age though, working with other children with speach and language problems it usually tends to be aroun the 3/4 mile stone that they begin to develop more, as that's when they start to deal with their emotions and feelings a bit better! It may just be a case of hanging in there and getting as much help and support as you can. Your local children's center or GP will have tonnes of info on support for you :)

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I forgot to add that he also started seeing an occupational therapist at the time when he was in speech therapy. It took him only 6 months of occupational therapy and the results were excellent! The funny thing is, he started going when everyone else said it was a bit too late because he was turning 6 already. Well, they were so so wrong!

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had the same problem with my son. Today he is 7years old and still does not like playing with other kids. He hates being around too many people he doesn't know as well. He has some 'autistic' traits but is not autistic. He has a speech delay and we started speech therapy when he was 5 turning 6. Today he still speaks when he feels like it which is hardly.....that is just his personality. Your child is still too young to diagnose with anything.....give it some time and don't just believe the first diagnosis that someone makes. In my case my son saw 4 edu psychs and only one of them proved to be right. The one who said he was perfectly normal but just had a speech delay. Thank God we believed her and not the others. When he turned 4 he started to say what he wanted but that was it.....he didn't make conversation with anyone.....he appeared almost lazy.....lazy to converse......so my advice to you is to just send him to speech therapy.....if he plays with his sisters there is no way that he can be autistic. My son would also sit and stare into space for minutes.....or he would play with his figurines the whole day all by himself. He loved his own space and he still does today. One thing he hated was when he could pick up that I was trying to 'teach' him how or what to say.....he still does. The day I decided to let him be was the day he proved to me that he was perfectly normal....he attends a mainstream school and is going to grade 2 next year. He is turning 8 and still is a loner. Just let your son be and don't make trying to 'teach' him anything too obvious. If he wants something don't just give it to him immediately......that's how my son's talking began......he will eventually ask for it.

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Hi Kayla, I agree with Brenda that a developmental paediatrician should be your next move if you feel there is more than just a speech delay. My son is 5 and was diagnosed with Autism when he was 3 and a half. Getting a diagnosis early means you are eligible for funding and also the early intervention is fantastic. With Autism, the sooner you learn how to help him manage, the better his outcome and yours as a family. Sounds like you love your little man so much so he's obviously in good hands. I also think it may be helpful to join an Autism community group either online or in person, to give yourself people to talk/relate to. Life can be very isolating when you have a child with Autism, so that can help, and also giving yourself time out. Just to be you. Doing something FOR you. I hope this helps a little. Good luck :)

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It sounds like you are on the right track with getting the speech appointment set up. Talk to your pediatrician about your concerns and tell him flat out you want referrals for evaluations for a developmental pediatrician and occupational therapy. My daughter has had some issues and we started that route when she was 2 along with the speech therapy. Occupational therapy helps stimulate different parts of the brain and helps with sensory issues. Don't let people in your life tell you it's in your head or he'll grow out of it. You're his mom and you know when something is concerning. When you are at his therapy appointments talk to the other parents waiting. You will find a wonderful support system. Good luck and good for you for trying to get him help.

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Also the child I look after is a big boy aswell! He has always been big, it's a case of shutting it out, some people will never learn and don't understand what's different to them! Try not to let it get you both down. He'll always be your gorgeous son!

Kerry - posted on 12/13/2013

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I actually work with an autistic boy, I have done for years now, however his autism was very sever and we had to teach him sign. We found that when he went to a special need school, although he got a lot done for him which made him a bit lazier his speach did improve. So mabye looking for a support group so he can socialiSe with other children going through what he Is.

A lot will come with age though, working with other children with speach and language problems it usually tends to be aroun the 3/4 mile stone that they begin to develop more, as that's when they start to deal with their emotions and feelings a bit better! It may just be a case of hanging in there and getting as much help and support as you can. Your local children's center or GP will have tonnes of info on support for you :)

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