2 year old with too many tantrums

Isaura - posted on 11/30/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my 2 year old is acting up first every night we struggle with him to put him to sleep he fights his sleep he cries so much but with anger can someone tell me why they do this ? second he doesn't listen at all he trows too many tantrums and for everything he gets mad is really fustrated because i don't know what to expect anymore.

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Elfrieda - posted on 11/30/2011

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My toddler needs lots of warning before we do something, and routines really help keep him smiling and cheerful.

Like, 5 minutes before I change his diaper, I tell him, "Let me check your diaper. Hmm, it's wet. Soon you will get a new diaper."
and bedtime and naptime have to be talked up for a good while in advance, too.

Every time he is supposed to come to the table to eat, he backs into the corner and waits for us to say "ready-set-GO" and then runs to his chair. The other day my in-laws were over for supper and my husband plunked my son down in his booster seat and he had a melt-down! I couldn't understand it, but somehow he was just so upset that he hadn't gotten to run to his chair. Of course that's not a good excuse for bad behaviour, so I took him into the other room until he calmed down, but if we had stuck to the routine, I think everything would have been fine.

Maybe your son needs a stricter bedtime routine so that he feels more comfortable. Or maybe something in his bedroom is scaring him. Does he have a nightlight?

I think 2 is just a frustrating age for them. They are learning that the world doesn't always go their way, and of course that's difficult to accept.

Elfrieda - posted on 12/05/2011

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Yes, I think it's a stage. It's challenging with the tantrums, but isn't it amazing how they change so much every day, with new words and cute things they do? Exciting! I am really enjoying this age. :)

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Isaura - posted on 12/05/2011

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Thanks ladies this calm me more i was thinking it was only my son but i think is a stage in life were they go thru this .But i think it is more on boys there more active.

Amy - posted on 12/01/2011

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Two year olds have tantrums because they don't have the language yet to express their frustration and their dislike of something. Unless my kids are doing something that is going to cause them serious injury when they have their tantrums at home I typically just ignore them, because they don't get a reaction from me or their father they are usually short lived. As they get older it's important to try and give them the words to use so that next time they can try and express themselves more appropriately.

Another thing that kids have a hard time doing is switching from doing one thing to another so when my son was youger he always got a warning. We would say 5 more minutes and then we have to go read stories for bed, 3 minutes....ect. That way it wasn't a huge shock and not as big of a deal.

Shelly - posted on 11/30/2011

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My 2 year old throws tantrums all the time too! Sometimes I wonder if it's a boy thing but I don't have a girl so I'm not sure.

However as far as bedtime goes I think we have a pretty good routine that has worked for us.

About 20 minutes before bedtime we change him into his jammie's and change his diaper. Then about 10 min before bedtime we take him into the bathroom to brush his teeth. Then when it's time for bed we have him say goodnight to the parent who's not tucking him in that night. Then take him off to bed. We make sure to give him lots of hugs, kisses and love. Then we tuck him in and read him a book or two. This helps calm him down so that by the time were done with book time he's winded down and can fall asleep on his own. Give it a try and see if it helps. Oh we also put him down at the same time every night. I think trying to stay as close as you can to a routine helps!

Good luck!

Isaura - posted on 11/30/2011

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Thanks for the information , is just so hard to deal with this i try to do a bed routine actually he did had one but i don't know what happen ,

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