2 yr old and eating

Leslie - posted on 11/27/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




My 2 yr old used to feed himself and now refuses a meal unless he is fed, what do I do?


Lynn - posted on 11/28/2011




He's just trying to get your attention. If he's hungry, he'll eat. Leave the room and watch what he does when he can't see you (as long as he's not climbing out of the high chair.) I bet he eats when you're not there and has no choice.

Kaitlin - posted on 11/28/2011




Yup. phase. Let him be, it's attention seeking. Give him dinner, (or whatever meal), tell him he is to eat it like a big boy and walk away. Don't feed him, don't turn on the tv, don't reason or tempt him with goodies, and if he throws it on the floor (cough cough experience) clean it up and say, well, I guess that means your done, and move on- go outside or change paces drastically and repeat the same deal during the next meal time. Good luck!

Danielle - posted on 11/28/2011




It is a phase i have been there with my now 6yo and now 4yo and am going thru it with my 20 month old. I agree if u look busy and don't take an interest in whether he is eating or not he is most likely to just do it. If he doesn't eat don't offer substitutes just let it b ok he will eat when he's hungry. If u go back to feeding him, he will expect it all the time. Really praise up the 'big boy' when he does do it, and maybe a special treat for big boys who can do it themselves?


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Cassie - posted on 11/30/2011




I have read about kids doing that around the age of two. When they learn to do things on their own, they will all of a sudden want help with it. They still want to be able to rely on their parents. The article sayd you should help them out, it won't last long, they will realize they prefer to do it by themselves. The article also says you should not tell then to act like a big boy/girl because if you think about it when we say that it usually means that they have to do more work and they won't want to be a big boy anymore

Hanna - posted on 11/29/2011




2 yr olds need negotiations like the air they breath! it is a good idea to allow it (thus preserving the little person's "honor" and sense of independence) within your limits. don't ask, suggest: "you can choose to eat by your self or that I will feed you 2 spoons and then you continue by your self." whatever he chooses, bear in mind that even if (by his own choise) he emisses a couple of meals, no harm will come to him, + healthy children do not stay hungry for long. This kind of negotiation is good in general. Hanna, Israel

Suzanne - posted on 11/29/2011




I'm with you Katlin, cleaned up many plates of food.. dont worry he will eat eventuly just make sure when eating together you don't talk about him feeding himself ,ignore it all together after giving it to him.

Emilie - posted on 11/28/2011




feed him a few bites and set the spoon down and walk around, doing chores or whatever and then he might feed himself because he wants more and you are too busy to do it. (just a thought)

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