20 month old not sleeping well....

Jenell - posted on 03/07/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I feel like I am the only one out there that has a child that does not sleep through the night at 20 months. He has twice in his life. He is up 3 times a night at least. He is super sad when he wakes, and just wants me. I have tried the cry it out method, but he gets himself so worked up and so exhausted that he makes himself throw up. The DRs say it is medication time for sleep. I strongly disagree. The side effects are too extreme, and God forbid something horrible happen if we were selfish and did medicate fo sleep. I am a stay at home mama, but I am slowly draining away. I have a 3 month old that sadly sleeps better that my 20 month old.


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Katherine - posted on 03/03/2011




Oh no, my 2yo NEVER sleeps! She has never slept through the night and my first didn't until she was 4. Not to burst your bubble. Maybe the reason he doesn't sleep is because of the new baby and the change?

I sleep with my 2yo because that is the ONLY way I can get some sleep, otherwise we're up all night.

Christie - posted on 03/03/2011




We are having the same problem at home. Kira never goes to sleep unless she gets in bed with us. Not sure how to keep her in her toddler bed and able to sleep.. Long nights for us. :(

User - posted on 04/29/2010




I wish I had a solution but I just want you to know that I have almost the exact same problem. My son is 20 months old and my daughter is 3 months old. She already sleeps through the night. He never has. He probably has a total of 3-4 times. I don't have the heart to let him cry it out. Hang in there and know that you're not alone.

Abbie - posted on 03/07/2010




I would never ever give my child medication to sleep. Other then maybe motrin or something because its possible its teeth or growing pains. You say he has never been a good sleeper. What we did and I am a true believer in it is got our son adjusted by a chiropractor starting at age 2 months ( about) and he was really out of alighnment. Its very simple, it might not fix the problem but it sure cant' make things worse. Also when he wakes up, go to him, offer him a drink, check his diaper and lay him back down. Leave the room, let him cry 10 minutes ( about) and go back to him, lay him back down and keep doing this. I believe at that age they do wake up and miss us, but I also believe they can do this just to get what they want ( Mommy) It will take time but it shoudl get better.

I think you are right in not medicating your child to sleep. I heard on the news today, that last year 57 million prescriptions were given for sleep meds for adults, and that only liek 5% really need them. The rest were just because we as adults don't settle down. So no need to give drugs now!! Also are you using any "white" noise? Such as a fan, music something like that to help keep him asleep. Also keep the room cool, we keep our house at 65 at night. Dress him in sock, onsie and a sleeper to keep him warm, but we do sleep better at cooler temps. I might also consider a new doctor. Do you give him a snack before bed? What time does he go down and what time does he get up for the day? What are naps during the day?

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