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My 20 year old daughter came home with her boyfriend of one year wearing an engagement ring. She just began her third year of college and he (19 by the way) is just beginning a military career. They became engaged only 10 days before he left for 23 months of military training. We were forced to quickly accept this because he was leaving and we didn't want to cause any drama for him. He unfortunately didn't have enough respect to speak to us prior to proposing and gave us very little time to process this new development. We had to throw together a quick family gathering so that the rest of our family could meet him before he left.
I am feeling so embarrassed and frustrated by all of this. My husband and I sacrifice every month to pay our daughter's enormous monthly college fees, including tuition, her car, phone, and insurance. We have done all of this so that she COULD focus on her education. I feel that the sacrifice being disrespected. To me, coming home engaged says "I'm an adult". Adults pay their own bills.I thought we would finish the college phase and engagement would come later.
I'm feeling disappointed and extremely sad and would love some advice.