22, 15 weeks pregnant with a 8 month old and my childrens father is locked up and a drug addict. Any advice?

Rolltidemommy6456 - posted on 08/21/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm struggling with being a somewhat of a single pregnant mother with no help. The only help I receive is my mother allowing me to live with her. I am in desperate need of a job and its impossible to get hired. I have no transportation thanks to my "fiance" whom is locked up in county jail and is a drug addict. He has never done anything for me and our daughter much less our new child that is on the way. I love him to the ends of the earth and I cant find myself to be with anyone else. But on the other hand I am trying to get through everyday with the trauma that I was living in for the past two years living with him and his drug addict messed up family. I have also recently went through dramatic changes legally with my life thanks to him and now I find myself having trouble holding onto any faith that I have ever had. I am very scared and the only thing getting me through each day is taking care of my daughter and even then i am finding myself feeling lost and scared and on edge and its a whole lot worse since I found out that i am pregnant again after all this legal stuff started happening. Please Help if you have any words of wisdom. Its much appreciated.

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Gwen - posted on 08/23/2012

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Find a good counselor who can teach you how to love yourself. Only then will you be able to move on with your life, away from the drugs. Your kids deserve better and so do you.

Rolltidemommy6456 - posted on 08/22/2012

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I don't have any social services involved. I live with my mom and the environment is very safe for my children my problem is getting through this. I just cant wait till the end of September when life moves on.

Chaya - posted on 08/22/2012

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Loose the guy, otherwise you'll likely loose custody of your children. If you have to take the lousinest job in the world, get any job. It makes you look more stable should social services get involved.
I sound like I'm paranoid, I have had social workers harass me because they wanted me to hand my daughter over to them, they didn't have probable causem so they were lying to me about the laws.. I already knew the laws, and called them on it
Contact your state representative about the laws in your state, then apply for hud housing or equivilant. You can get daycarewhen you get a job, if you have your own place, it'll make things look quite stable for you.
Return to school as early as possible, it's not easy to take care of school, work, and children, but the best thing to do in this economy is to stay in school until the depression is over, then you'll be equipped to take on the world

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