Maryann - posted on 12/27/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )
My son is 22. He went to college for 1 year, living away from home. Towards the end of the last semester, March-May 2012, he began to skip classes so failed out of 2 classes, then he came home early May and since then, he's done nothing. He has a therapist he has clicked with - but she is rarely available, having a full time teaching job and many patients in her part-time role as therapist. We spent much of 2012 and 2013 going to different doctors as my son Nick complained of various ailments.. nothing was ever found. He even got a colonoscopy 2 years ago. As time passes, and his few friends have moved on with their lives, he is spending more and more time in the house alone. I also moved out of the house in summer of 2012, his dad and I had marital problems for many years prior to that and were separated but constantly fighting. So now he lives there with his dad. I'm in an apartment across town so I go over there several nights a week after work. I do not know what to do anymore. Since he was 4, we have had him to various therapists for his behavior problems - outbursts/inappropriate behavior at school/hitting other children, etc. Meds were prescribed but he would never try and his dad always said don't force him. THe last time i took him to a psychiatrist recommended by his therapist was Dec. 2014 and he was prescribed meds. I filled the scrip but he never would try, even though he said he would.
The past few months he is leaving the house less and less. He doesn't eat enough and I worry about his health. He stays up all night on his computer or doing video games and sleeps til about 3 in the afternoon. I am grateful for any support/suggestions. His dad is going to move to PA early next year and we are selling the house. I will have to get a new apartment with 2 bedrooms so he can move with me. He refuses to go to Pennsylvania with his dad. We live in Northern NJ. Thanks for listening, all.