22 yr Son moving to Florida for fall 2017 for nursing school

Staci - posted on 07/22/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi Everyone,
Ok so I am having a hard time even thinking about leaving...my sin is an EMT And college student who has decided he wants to attend nursing school in florida...we are planning to move there as well but my daughter has 18 months left of HS so we cant leave yet..all I do is think about this and atart crying I get fearful for him he has never been on his own and well this just scares me hslf to death...trying to figure out how im going to cope...he will have to work and go to school and chances are wont be able to come home...ty for listening

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Staci - posted on 07/23/2016

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Ok so let me say this again...my son pays his own bills, car insurance, car payment and cell phone bills....with that being said WE ARE MOVING TO FLORIDA BECAUSE THAT IS WHERE WE ARE HAPPY...this has NOTHING to do with my son moving there..We have friends that live there and some on the other coast...All I was doing was LOOKING for support as to how to not worry about him being so far away...I think at this point I will no longer post here since this has nothing to do with anxiety, control or us moving because of him...We have moved away from family and its not easy, and OUR children want us a part of their lives so thank you all for your comments...

Dove - posted on 07/23/2016

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He's 22. Fully an adult. If you've raised him well be confident that he will be FINE. Do not uproot your daughter or your entire lives to chase after your fully grown son.

Now... if you have an anxiety disorder... I can completely understand and empathize w/ your fear... but you HAVE to be able to let him go and be OK yourself. That's your job as a parent of an adult child.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/23/2016

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How, at the age of 22, has your son not been on his own? You are actually planning on disrupting your family's life to trot cross country so your adult son will have his momma right there? What does the rest of the family want?

There is a time to let your kids live their own lives, and you have passed it. Don't get me wrong, here. We are a very close family as well. My 22 year old son has been on his own since he was 19, by his own choice, and we still have a wonderfully close relationship. Uprooting the entire family is simply ludicrous, IMO.

What if, after graduation, your daughter wishes to attend Berkeley in California? What will you do then, with adult kids on both coasts?

Staci - posted on 07/23/2016

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Michelle
Let me rephrase myself...We are very close with our children and have a great relationship, My son is very independent as I said however never had interest in leaving home..I do not smother either of my children as my son works full time and goes to school fulll time and we love sitting at the dinner table when possible since he is an EMT and isnt always home together...With that said we had lived in Florida for 4 years he went to HS there and we loved it and all have decided to move back. At this point we cant since my daughter is still in HS so our son will be heading there on his own and its not like he is just going to nursing school he will also be working full time as an EMT there so its not like he will be just going to college and be able to come home for breaks etc...We are very supportive of our children especially our son, however I am finding it difficult having him live on his own so far away...this has nothing to do with smothering, again if you understood our relationship and knew that he never had interest of living on his own until he finished school or hIis student loans etc...I am sure e will be fine I worry about safety and just being so far away...

Michelle - posted on 07/23/2016

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You have done your job as a parent. That was to raise him into adulthood. He is now there and it's now his time to live his own life.
Why are you wanting to move to Florida? Is it because of your son or have you always wanted to move there? If it is then I suggest you don't move. Your children will move away from you and live their own lives, you need to let them go. If you smother them then they will move further away.

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