23 month old won't leave her pants on, I need suggestions on how to keep them on!!!

Peita - posted on 10/01/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 23 month old daughter has just recently started taking her pants off. She has begun toileting on her own, but refuses to wear nappies, undies or pants. I run an in home daycare and it is becomming an issue, the other children are starting to copy her and they all laugh about it. The other problem with no pants is it was only 13 degree's here today (Australia) and all she wanted to do was run around with no pants on.. If we go out, she willingly puts pants on, but if we are at home we have tantrums and crying and she just takes her pants off herself when I am not looking. Any suggestions on how to encourage her to keep her pants on would be much appreciated, she is my 3rd child and she is the only one who has done this, so it is all quite a challenge for me....
I know that this may be just a 'stage' she is going through, but I do have other peoples children I need to think about too.

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Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2011

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maybe get a special pretty pair of pants that she can only wear at home...maybe even with no undergarments for easier pottying. (pants made out of fleece or soft jersey wool are great because they prevent "accidents from leaking out -they are water repellent)

make a big to-do about the pants, act like they are so beautiful and wonderful. talk up the fact that they are special and can only be worn at home.

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Peita - posted on 10/03/2011

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Kelly, I laugh about it to (when she is not around) I put her to bed the other night and I think I laughed out of relief, she is so full on and and very strong minded that I sometimes can't get my head around everything that she does, I have let her choose her own pants today and we have only had issue this morning, this afternoon has been good so far. I will see how we go with it all tomorrow when my daycare kids are here, she thrives of being the centre of attention with the other kids....

Kelly - posted on 10/03/2011

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She is definitely old enough to understand and when it is an issue like this that you do not want to ignore then you need to see it through. Give her control in choosing the pants for the day and a reward/ praise for keeping them on. Something small. If you keep these on you can get this..... Can even use peer pressure. Everyone who kept their pants on today gets a cookie! Ok sorry but I am giggling as I write this. they are so cute and funny at this age IF they are not your frustration to deal with : )

Peita - posted on 10/02/2011

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I can't ingnore her completely, for one, it is not in my nature to do that and two, if she doesn't get the attention she craves or wants, she starts biting and I would prefer that not to happen.

I did notice today that she has left her pants on and I think it is because she has had shoes on all day, so I might leave shoes on her more often and see if the 'phase' passes, I will try letting her pick out her own pants to wear and I will make a big deal out how good of a job she did at picking them and see how that goes too....
Thanks for all of the ideas everyone!!

Wendy - posted on 10/02/2011

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Hmmm why dont you try ignoreing her completly when she does this....the laughing when she started this is why its still a big problem.....ignore her completly and tell her why...untill you put your clothes on properly i will not play, talk, feed you lunch, nothing..dont even look at her.. make sure your family is with you on this..do it on the weekend after i can imagine about a hour of nobody even acknowleging her presents she should put clothes on..good luck....lol

Peita - posted on 10/02/2011

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I think she thinks it's funny ( I do to, but try not to let her know that), out of all of my 3 kids, she is the most head strong, actually, out of my 12yrs working in childcare, she is the most hard work child I have come across lol!! Her older siblings started out by laughing at her, now they just say put your pants on and look away, I do the same thing, I calmly ask her to put her pants on and then ignore the behaviour.. I don't mind if she does nudey runs while it is just us at home, but like I said, I do Family Day Care in my home and other peoples children are starting to copy this behaviour, because she does it ALL the time, we were saying goodbye to her older brother from the middle of our driveway the other day and it was only 13 degree's and she took her pants off, if she doesn't take them completely off, she walks around with them around her ankles.. Like I said, it is affecting other children's behaviour now and I just want some suggestions to keep some warm clothing on.
My DD has been a challenge since she was born, the only thing she has been constant with is food intake lol! I have worked really hard with her sleeping, keeping her well (she tends to pick up every cold or cough going around), she used to be really rough with other children, but I worked hard to make that a little better too, I guess this is just one more thing my little cherub is throwing my way!!!!!

Wendy - posted on 10/01/2011

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Both my girls were naked girls.....the rule was if anyone was in the house other than mum and dad clothes had to stay on.....when just us no problem be free......they outgrew it obviously...lol.... cant remember at what age but it was before they went to school for sure not even 4years....they will eventualy feel modesty and cover up mum allow them this freedom when its just the family home why not........

Katherine - posted on 10/01/2011

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It could be a number of things:

Attention
irritation of the skin
they bug her
she's 2 (most 2 year olds like to run naked)
she's a stinker :)

My now 2.5 yr old used to do that ALL the time. Now she comes in the house and takes off her socks and shoes. No pants. What kind of reaction do you give when she's doing this?

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