23 year old son

Brenda - posted on 06/27/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son is 23 and only works 3 hours a day. he will not get his driving permit and we have to furnish him transportation to and from work. My husband and I are both in our
60s and not in very good health. I can not get my son to understand that he needs to get a full time job. He is talking to this girl that keeps saying she is comming to get him but never shows up and he keeps using this as an excuse for not getting another job. He is lazy and doesn't want to help around the house.

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Jodi - posted on 06/27/2015

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You don't "HAVE" to do anything. You are choosing to do it. Maybe it is time for him to get out in the big bad world by himself where he will HAVE to step up and be a big boy.

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You aren't helping him by doing all that you do for him now. Tell him to figure out how to get to work by himself. Give a bus timetable if he needs one and that's about it with the support he'll get from you until he starts acting up. He needs to be forced to take action.

Jodi - posted on 06/27/2015

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I don't even drive my 17 year old around everywhere. If he can't get off his butt and get his licence and a car (which he hasn't), then he can find his own way to get it done! Even my 17 year old can manage to get himself to work, to school, to his girlfriend's house, to his mate's house......and he still does his chores. Unfortunately, your 23 year old has had it too easy for too long.

Michelle - posted on 06/27/2015

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I agree with Jodi, you don't have to drive him around, he can walk or get public transport.
You need to stop doing things for him or he will never do it on his own. Why should he?

Sarah - posted on 06/27/2015

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A bus pass to get places is quite affordable. Even if he has to walk a mile or two to the bus stop.
Change the locks and put his stuff outside. To the letter of the law you may have to serve him with an eviction. Look it up online and follow it exactly! Once served, you cannot accept anything from him that could be interpreted by the courts as "in lieu of rent" no money, no chores, nothing. File it order with the court and when it is awarded the sheriff can help enforce the "move"

Dove - posted on 06/27/2015

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Tell him to walk his butt out that door and figure it out. If he wants you to drive him or feed him during the next 30 days (until the date of the eviction notice you are about to give him)... he can pay you just like a taxi service and a restaurant. Otherwise... he'd better figure stuff out real quick on his own.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/27/2015

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So tell him to leave. He's an adult, and you are in no way obligated to continue to support his lazy butt.
Serve him with a 30 day eviction notice.

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