26yr old, single mom of 8 yr old - Dating?

Brittany - posted on 08/09/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi everyone!!!!

I am a 26 yr old mother of one. My daughter is eight years old and it's just me and her. I have been single for about four years now. Once finished with college I received a great work opportunity which has landed me a great career. Everything in life is amazing but I can't seem to enjoy it because I'm focused on my age and me being single. Some of my friends are getting married and some are single, and it's honestly discouraging. Although I'm happy for my friends, it makes me sad for myself and my daughter. I want a husband. I want my daughter to have a positive father figure/role model. I never meet guys because I'm so busy working and mommying that I do not take time for myself. When I look around at all the guys my age, it's a complete joke and I wouldn't dare consider having one of these men as a father figure to my child. Am I being too picky? Am I supposed to settle? What am I doing wrong? What can I work on?


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Dove - posted on 08/09/2016




NEVER settle. You do not have to date/get married in order for your daughter to have a positive male role model. Does she have any grandpas/uncles/family friends that are male/etc...?

While I am significantly older and have been single for about twice as long as you have... I have zero interest in dating. I did it for a couple of months in 2010 and... no more. lol I have made sure that there are several positive male role models in my children's lives and that's good enough for me... though my son (8) does want me to get married cuz he wants a dad that lives w/ him and that does make it rough on my heart for his sake. ♥

As for taking time for yourself... YES, that is very important. You do need a chance to relax and unwind in something that does not involve your career or your child. If you DO have family or a friend (maybe w/ kids...and you can trade off childcare) nearby maybe try getting out on your own on occasion just to relax or develop a hobby or something that is JUST for you. Maybe you will meet a guy that way... maybe not, but it will be more fulfilling in your life.

Helena - posted on 08/09/2016




Hey, Here are some tips . Start going out more often, your not picky , your just clear on what you want . Maybe you should considering guys about 3-4 older then you ,or single dads. Maybe try online dating if you can't get out often.

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