2nd C-section

Traci - posted on 04/13/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I am 15 weeks along with my second child. I had to have an emergency C-section with my son due to complications. We have decided that is best for us to have a c-section again with his baby. I am scared to death! The thought of being cut open again, and having to go threw all that again just makes me nervous, numb, ansey, and sometime i just get sick to my stomach. I have talked to the dr about the V-backs and its not going to be an option for me due to the complications I did have with our son. Im really scared I will faint on the operating table and when i come to, flare around and complicating things. I know that a silly thing to worry about since i will be numb and pretty much unable to move. lol but has anyone else been really scared or nervous about having a scheduled C-section? How did you over come the fear? Or did you?

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Heather - posted on 04/15/2011

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I have had 3 c-sections, the first being the emergency. I am now pregnant with my 4th and am not the least bit worried. I was a nervous wreck while awaiting my 2nd though. My doctor put my mind at ease by telling me this: the first time, you labored and then had a c-sections. That is the equivalent of running a marathon and then deciding to do som areobics. This time, you will just do the aerobics. That made so much sense to me. After my second, the pain was so much less, recovery was so much quicker and went so much more smoothly. I was surprised it was even a c-section! My third was even better. The first is always scarey and the recovery is horrible because you have gone through so much. But when they are scheduled, things are so quick and smooth, you won't have time to worry. Just know that this is what is right for you and your baby and the safest option. Know that you are in good hands and that this time - there is no emergency. Smooth sailing! Good Luck with everything!!

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Zena - posted on 04/18/2011

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i have had 2 C sections. I know how you feel. i hated the first c section! the first was an emergency and even though i was warned that i would most likely have another i talked to my doc and we agreed i would give a vaginal birth a try. it didnt work out and i did the C section (asked for it infact!)

yes i know its scary but if its planned its much better. tell your doc everything. the posters here are right talk through all your fears it helps.

also remember that its well worth it just to have a live baby.

remember that the sooner you get on your feet the faster you'll heal. with my first i was laid up & in pain for weeks! with my second at a diffrent hospital i was expected to be up & about in days & no one will help you care for your baby if you dont get up!

you'll be ok! rooting & praying for you!

Tee - posted on 04/16/2011

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Both of my sections were unplanned. With my son it was an emergency c-section due to pre-e. With my daughter we were hoping for VBAC but it was not possible due to having too many cerclages (scar tissue does not dialate well). Surprisingly I was fine after the 2nd section and up and walking around the next day. The only pain meds I needed was tylenol. The total opposite from when I had my son. With him we did the morphine drip with percocet to take the edge off enough to take a nap. I was in constant pain for a month easy with the first section. With the last one I was fine. I was terrified though when they said I had to have another section since recovery was so bad with the first.

Danielle - posted on 04/15/2011

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I have had 2 c-sections. My son's was unplanned. My daughter's was planned ahead of time. I was 10x more terrified for my daughter's because I had a lot more time to anticipate the painful recovery and develop fears over the what ifs. You will be okay. Breathe deep and evenly throughout your surgery. Have your partner talk you through it. Be aware your second c-section will take a bit longer since there is scar tissue to work through. Take comfort in that you have done this before and you are an experienced mother. I can almost guarantee your recovery this time around will be easier. I know mine certainly was. I had many complications in both of my pregnancies. Both of my children and myself are all happy and healthy.

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I had to have a scheduled c-section for my first pregnancy so far. after lots of tears and fears I finally came to terms with having it until the time came for my water to break in the middle of the night. We went to the hospital at 2am and of course my Doc was not on call and wouldn't be in till 7 or so. So I had to quickly deal with the fact my own doc would not be cutting me open. Now because I was going to be in an operating room the hospital policy is no one was allowed in the room while the epidural was being administered except for hospital staff. I had a complete meltdown. The nurse had to hold me to calm me down. I was so upset my neck and shoulders were in agonizing pain from the stress. The only thing that helped me through was my husband and seeing those two beautiful babies.

After it was all said and done the epidural was the worst thing I have ever experienced. I do not like needles especially when the are going into my back and hitting a nerve. I still want more kids and still I am fearful of that needle more than anything else.

Pauline - posted on 04/15/2011

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I had two scheduled c-sections and I gotta say the second was much easier than the first. I was very nervous as I knew what to expect but they were great and it all went very smoothly and seemed to be over quicker than the first. My recovery time afterwards was also quicker than the first. All in all the second was a much better and smoother experience than the first so relax and enjoy it. Good luck when the time comes :)

Felicia - posted on 04/15/2011

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Hi Traci. Yes i have two beautiful daughters 12 and 8. I was in the same situation that you're facing now. Me and my husband took lamaze classes and were so ready to experience the birth of our first. Due to uncertain circumstances i had to have an emergency c-section two weeks before my due date due to eclampsia. And thinking that all births are different i figured i'd have no problems with the second pregnancy".NOT"!!! I ended up even sicker with this pregnancy with hyperemesis.(IV's and home health 24/7)I really wanted to beat the odds and try for a vbac but due to the first and second pregnancy developing low platelets with both;epidurals couldn't even be implemented into my birthing plan.I had to be put to sleep with both C-sections .And due to precautionary measures my husband wasn't allowed to be in the operating room for the births as well. They allowed him to stand outside of the Operating room door to meet his daughters for the first time as they were transported to the nursery.To make a long story short i had to mentally prepare myself for the second c-section. I practiced meditation and breathing exercises to calm me until they put me under with the anesthesia.God has a plan and will always take care of you. I prayed the whole time i was on the operating table as they were prepping me both times. It definitely helped.The last thing you want is to be nervous or have any type of anxiety during your birth of your child. It can also be a risk to the child if you're stressed.Discuss the issues with your partner to see if there is something the two of you can do or focus on that will help soothe you throughout the C-section. It's a blessing to be able to see and experience the birth of your child.And even more of a blessing to even be able to have children.Everything will be allright. Keep the faith!!!;-)

Heather - posted on 04/15/2011

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I have had two c-sections. The first one was not planned. The second one was. The second one was so much better because you hadn't labored for hours before going in to the operating room. I literally walked into the operating room, hopped up onto the table and with 30-45 minutes I had a healthy baby boy. It was so quick and people couldn't believe I had just had a baby because I looked so good. You're so much more emotionally and physically ready to take care of the baby than the first time because you're not exhausted. The incision didn't seem to hurt as much either. I would just focus on the beautiful new baby you're going to have and don't focus on the way it's going to be born.

Zarmiela - posted on 04/15/2011

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Dear Traci,
I am 18weeks preggy with 3rd child...and its gonna be my 3rd C-sect. My 1st C-sect was very painfull and amazingly the 2nd C-sect was not as bad as the first one. I can walk to the toilet after 6 hours of the C-sect. My opinion dont worry too much..be calm...every delivery has its own stories....Gud luck to us...

Kat - posted on 04/14/2011

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I had my 2nd C-Cection on New year's Eve, and before it, I was very fearful - mainly of the Epidural. I too had a complicated first delivery, plus I have severe Endometriosis, so this past section was also my 6th abdominal surgery.

However having it planned verses emergency was sooo much differant. True, it did give me time to be nervous, but the staff was really good, and put me at ease. My daughter did have to go to NICU for a few hours which was nerve wracking, but everything ended up just fine.

One thing you may want to try, is sit down and write down every fear you have about your surgery. Then take that list to your next OB appt. and go over it with him. Don't worry about sounding silly - they really have heard it all.

Good luck!!!

Kristian - posted on 04/14/2011

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I am 8 months along, and awaiting my 2nd c-section. I am more scared of the post-op pain. Last time, they removed the epidural right after surgery, and the morphine didn't start to work for 30 minutes. I was in such horrible pain, I was cursing, and told the nurse the least she could do was give me some whiskey and a belt to bite down on. Also told her that if she tried to massage my fundus again, (uterus), that I was going to kick her in the head! I have been talking to my doc from day one about this experience, and she assures me that it will not happen like this again, but I am still very nervous. Just keep talking to your doc about your concerns and get a plan together of how to prevent some of the things you are worried about. Good luck to you!

Shannon - posted on 04/14/2011

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Hi there, i have 4 kids, 2 were born naturally, then my son was born via emergency c-section so i knew that my fourth child would be c-section as well. Due to all of the issues my son had at birth ( he was 5 weeks early, had 4 chest tubes, was on a ventilator) I was TERRIFIED to say the least. I talked to my dr, talked to my husband, talked to anyone i knew that had had multiple c-sections, and just prayed that everything would be ok. Because i knew what to expect the second time around i was a little more prepared, I knew that "warm" blankets would be my friend and i also knew that the longer i waited to move the harder it would be. I made arrangements to have someone at the hospital with me overnight in case i needed help with anything and for the first 2 weeks of being home i made sure someone was with me while my husband was at work. Everything will be fine, just relax and enjoy your pregnancy, you know basically what to expect, Good luck and God bless!

Joanna - posted on 04/13/2011

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Consider hiring a doula. A doula can be just as invaluable in a ceserean birth as a vaginal one. She will help you to recognize and overcome the fears you have before birth and help keep you focused and explain what is going on during the birth.
I don't know what your complications were, but there are few that would make a VBAC not an option for future births. IF YOU WANT A VBAC, interview other providers. Find out if this doctor does many VBAC's at all, or is he just not comfortable with any VBAC.
Regardless of how you birth your baby, birth is a miracle, and a time that you should embrace not be fearful of. There are also support groups~ ICAN, Solace for Mothers, Birth Circle~ just to name a few. Find someone to talk with to help you with your concerns. You can also discuss your concerns with your doctor, who will hopefully be caring and helpful in overcoming them.

Kim - posted on 04/13/2011

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I found out I would have to have a c-section because my baby was sitting breech. The doctors were afraid that they had manipulated my uterus so bad trying to get my baby to flip head down (a procedure called "external cephalic version"), that I'd go into labor while he was breech. So we scheduled a c-section. I had two days to accept it and get past my fears. What I kept telling myself was that my baby was worth whatever I had to go through. It scared me a lot, especially since it was happening so soon. But it's not an emergency c-section; it's not happening at the drop of a hat without giving you the chance to mentally prepare for it. If you're really really scared, talk to the doctor who's performing the c-section. That way you'll know you're in good hands :) And Tina is right; you've already done it once with less time to think about it, you can do it again.

Tina - posted on 04/13/2011

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yeah i'm in the same boat I had my son via emergence c section and am 29 weeks along now and planning a c section for the next one. I'm nervous about the recovery and the injection not so much the op. as i was last time I had a really good anethasist that talked me through it last time. Although I am scared I got through it once I can do it again same with you. You'll be fine you got through it before you can do it again may just need some extra support when recoving to help with the little ones.

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