Kerry - posted on 05/21/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )
My 3.5 year old will not sleep by himself. After some hard work, we've been able to get him to fall asleep in his own bed, around 8p, but he wakes up 2-3 hours later (then 2 hrs after, then 1 hr after etc etc) 'needing' my husband or I to sit with him until he falls asleep. Then he freaks when he wakes up and we are not there - comes downstairs, disrupting our time. Tonight he continued to carry on after my husband spent (another) 45 mins at his first waking and he still wouldn't go to sleep, so we put the gate up in his doorway. He carried on for hours, completely destroying his room, waking his 1y/o brother (keeping him awake for about 90 mins) and finally climbing out and downstairs. Presently, my husband is laying down with him in his bed (I refuse to 'reward' him with our bed - which is what he wants) so we can get the baby to sleep! ... Sadly, I really enjoy having him come into our bed and wouldn't mind it if he joined us in the middle of the night but he doesn't. All he does is ruin the few hours I the evening that my husband and I have together or time to get things done around the house. We have tried toys in his bed, lights on in case of fears, rewards ($1 for every night falling asleep in his bed) & punishment systems (taking away toys), even educational games on the I pad while he's in bed - NOTHING works! I am so tired of it and find myself getting so angry at him. I hate feeling this way :( .. Any words of advice?! Please???