3 week old cries & fidgets constantly

Ashley - posted on 08/11/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My beautiful DD (dear daughter) is 3 weeks and 4 days old. The first week home from the hospital was a dream - she ate, silently took in the world around her for a few minutes, and slept. I was so looking forward to the days when she'd be alert for longer, but shortly after hitting one week old, she started experiencing feeding issues. She has been formula-feeding from the start, and initially there were no issues on Similac Pro-Advance, but when she hit about a week and a half old, she started having severe gas issues. No amount of burping or Mylicon regimen would help the constant tummy rumbles and screaming while pulling her legs up to her stomach and flailing her arms. I switched to Enfamil Gentlease, and the gas got much better, but she still cries after (and even during) every feeding. DD (dear daughter) is seriously never awake and happy or even content. A typical cycle goes: wake up --> diaper change (usually content unless already very hungry if I missed her feeding cues while sleeping) --> 3-4 oz of Gentlease while sitting upright (I try to burp every 1.5-2 oz but most of the time DD (dear daughter) screams for the bottle back or because she seems to hate being burped in any position --> sit upright for 20-30 mins longer while having to reposition or walk around with DD (dear daughter) every couple of minutes to stave off crying (she's always on the verge) --> usually another diaper change (she tends to have a very loud and forceful BM shortly after taking a few sips of the bottle) --> every attempt to settle her crying and constant flailing and fidgeting until she falls asleep and we begin the cycle again (she eats approx every 3 hours). She will actually sleep well (only waking to eat and not fussing as much during burps) and rarely cries from around 230am - 12pm - allowing me to get some decent, if choppy, sleep. Taking her to my grandmothers the day before yesterday was a wakeup call when she confirmed constantly crying or fussing while awake isn't typical newborn behavior. (I've gotten a lot of "babies cry" as advice when I know it's something more than that.) I made an appointment and took her to her pediatrician today who diagnosed silent reflux (as she has all the symptoms other than projectile spit up). She was prescribed Zantac (0.6ml every 12 hours for 8lb 3oz DD). We gave her the first dose a few hours ago with no change 2 feedings later. I know it may take a bit to kick in, and I hate to say it, but I'm not optimistic that it will work well after reading about other's experiences. I will give it time and hold out hope, but in the meantime I'm losing my mind. I cry nearly as much as she does because I hate to see my baby in pain and want some quiet content moments for bonding and tummy time and play. Have any of you experienced anything like this? I'm wondering if she may have a milk allergy as well and if maybe switching to something like Similac Alimentum may be helpful? In the meantime, swaddling with a pacifier and the vibrations of her bouncy chair (which she's a little too small to actually bounce in at the moment) seem to soothe her, but I'm just so upset and heartbroken for my little girl.

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Sarah - posted on 08/13/2017

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Her poop, both looks and frequency are normal for a newborn. General rule is only worry about black or white stools. Pinkish is possibly from a medication? I know some forms of mylicon are tinted pink. My son had violent gas, he'd bear down so hard to poop out soft stools, and usually during a feed. Hang in there!

Ashley - posted on 08/13/2017

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Thank you so much for your reply! Colic (while stressful) would be a welcome diagnosis as at least I'd know we're already doing everything we can do. I can hear DD's stomach making fizzy sounds during and after eating, and she has a BM during nearly every feeding (approx 8 times per day) that is greenish yellow and seedy (although I'm not BF - so I'm not sure if the seediness is still normal). Today I noticed a few pinkish-looking deposits in her stool as well. I plan to call her doctor again tomorrow.

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2017

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I agree with Sarah, it sounds like colic and is quite common. Talk to your doctor about colic instead of the reflux.

Sarah - posted on 08/12/2017

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It sound like colic to me and it can be exhausting. My breastfed son was exactly like this; for 12 weeks. He cried, tucked his knees in, would latch on and then let go to scream and seemed miserable. It is most common in firstborns. I would not change formula without talking to your doctor. Babies are like tuning forks for your emotions as well, the more stressed you are they more stressed she will be as well. Try to get some time away to quiet your mind and hand in there. I know it seems like it will last forever but it does pass.

ETA: "Taking her to my grandmothers the day before yesterday was a wakeup call when she confirmed constantly crying or fussing while awake isn't typical newborn behavior."
While I totally respect your grandmother's experience. As a mother of four and a nurse that worked L&D for many years...it really is classic signs of colic

Ashley - posted on 08/12/2017

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I should mention she'll only sleep tilted slightly upright in her Rock 'n Play Sleeper or on me while I'm upright. It sounds like it was a hard few months, but I'm so glad your son outgrew it! I hope we're as fortunate!

Dove - posted on 08/12/2017

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My son had reflux. He was cranky a LOT for the first 6 months. He was lucky and outgrew it. Sometimes the meds helped... sometimes they did not. He was breastfed and nursing was his comfort and he would sometimes nurse 3 times in the same hour! You are lucky that she sleeps relatively well. My son slept upright on me while I was propped upright in bed for the first 5 months. It was the only way we both slept.

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