3 year old and might be pregnant

Kisha - posted on 04/05/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old who is about to be 4 years old. I have been with his dad for about 6 years and some change. I am confident I'm pregnant I'm scared Dow to go through with this because I wanted to wait to my son was actually in school. He started head start but wanted him to be like in kindergarten but he also said couple months ago he wanted a sibling because he is only child but when I ask him off and on he says yes then no. Then my fiance been wanting me to have another o e but I'm just not ready because I wanted my 3 ur old to be the only child and I feel he might feel some type of way. When I think about being pregnant and look at my 3 ur old I feel disappointed

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Ev - posted on 04/06/2016

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My daughter was an only child for nearly 7 years before her brother was born. She was never thought less of when she was given a sibling to play with. Of course she was 6 she was told of a new one coming to our lives and she loved the idea. Of course, she was asking for a sibling since the age of two years old because her friends in Sunday School were always getting new siblings.

Michelle - posted on 04/06/2016

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If you're pregnant then there's not much you can do about it now.
Instead of being upset that your plans have happened a year or so early, embrace the new baby if you are pregnant.

Have you actually taken a pregnancy test? Maybe confirm it first before regretting it.

Ev - posted on 04/05/2016

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I agree with Sarah E on the science of it all and the fact the child does not fully understand what a sibling is.
Sarah--I have a friend that did get pregnant on every type of birth control there was to be had back in the 1990's and we did not have a lot of the stuff they have now. Her ex husband failed to use the condom though and so it resulted in some miscarriages and 3 kids. He just would not do his part.
Kisha--if you definitely are pregnant then you have to deal with the whole thing and move on with life.

Sarah - posted on 04/05/2016

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He is three, he is not biologically able to understand the complexity of you having a baby, how long it will take said baby to grow up and that it is a permanent situation. That's not my opinion, that is science. A 3 yo still has magical thinking and more than likely he believes a sibling would actually be a peer. He may be able to tell you yes or no to a sibling, but he cannot understand the conceptual aspects. You want your toddler to lead your decision, go a right ahead. I did not throw you under the bus. The odds of two appropriately used methods of BC used at the same time and both failing are astronomical. So if you really want your kid to be an only child, then you might want to consider a more permanent form of sterilization.

Kisha - posted on 04/05/2016

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Look you got some kids out here that can comprehend well and some that can't. This had already happen before I ask to see if he would understand that I would be having another baby. You got some out here that fail birth control just as well as I did so don't throw me under the bus

Sarah - posted on 04/05/2016

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You used two methods of birth control and they both failed? Really? I guess that is beside the point, if you do not want to have another child then you have a choice. I don't understand asking a three year old if he wants a sibling at all. He's three, what he wants should not influence you decision as he doesn't really have the ability to comprehend what having a sibling entails.

Ev - posted on 04/05/2016

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Ahh one of those issues...able to get pregnant while on a birth control. Did he use a condom to help with the process of not getting pregnant right away.

Kisha - posted on 04/05/2016

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I did I had implanon in but had a miscarriage they told me I could easily lose or gain a baby and once I removed it I got on another birth control for a week or so and due to removing my implanon pregnancy was occurring during the time of the pills

Ev - posted on 04/05/2016

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Why did you not use some form of birth control then if you did not want to have another child so soon or at all?

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